1. How to Build Positivity in Married Life? : Click Here
    Dismiss Notice
  2. Would you like to join the IL team? See open jobs!
    Dismiss Notice
  3. Liked anything that you read here? You may nominate it as the Finest Posts!
    Dismiss Notice
  4. What can you teach someone online? Tell us here!
    Dismiss Notice
  5. If someone taught you via skype, what would you want to learn? Tell us here!
    Dismiss Notice

What quality would you like to see in your spouse??? NOW !!!!

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Tara09, Mar 9, 2010.

  1. Tara09

    Tara09 New IL'ite

    Messages:
    236
    Likes Received:
    11
    Trophy Points:
    0
    Gender:
    Female
    What quality would you like to see in your spouse and tell us if you are doing anything about it or have just compromised with the package you got???

    I really wish my dh talked a little more. He is very quiet and I am the one who does all the talking in our marriage.
    Infact, when I married him I appreciated that quality because I, being a talkative person did not like another clone of me. But, now I feel he needs to give work to his vocal chords more.

    When ever we have guests or friends at home, it is funny to see them talking amongst themselves in our house with dh sprinkling his usual hmm, yeah, fine,ok, oh! ah!, ..........every 15-20 secs.

    Sometimes, I hear the other person talking nonstop and dh so silently listening to every bit of it and nothing to contribute. After they leave I ask him, why don't you also talk something? He says, I was listening to him, he had lot of stuff to tell me, whats wrong?? I say....oh!no! nothing wrong! You are fine!!...
    In fact all our friends say he is so quiet and calm and we like that in him....Hey! I liked that earlier too, but not anymore....:bonk

    Anyway, other than that my package is good.....:)
    How about yours???? Share your side,plzz....
     
    Last edited: Mar 9, 2010
    Loading...

  2. guesshoo

    guesshoo IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    2,785
    Likes Received:
    7,296
    Trophy Points:
    408
    Gender:
    Female
    Aww Tara! Sounds exactly like my DH.

    Very economical with words. So much that he won't even use sentences unless absolutely necessary!! I've given up on that now.

    What I'm trying to change in him is his use of endearments. I would like him to say dear and honey and sweetie and such when he talks to me.

    So, these days, if he says something I'll repeat his phrase including a term of endearment and make him repeat my line :D It is quite good fun. But strangely, he doesn't seem to be learning very quickly... ;o)
     
  3. srvaug

    srvaug Senior IL'ite

    Messages:
    103
    Likes Received:
    2
    Trophy Points:
    18
    Gender:
    Female
    NEATNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    That's a HUGE pet peeve of mine :crazy and he knows it.
    All other aspects we are in total sync like talking, helping, sharing etc.,
     
    Last edited: Mar 9, 2010
  4. sita2223

    sita2223 Bronze IL'ite

    Messages:
    561
    Likes Received:
    30
    Trophy Points:
    48
    Gender:
    Female
    I love my husband as he is. :kiss
    Thanks to my stars, I found my soulmate.
     
  5. Enchanted

    Enchanted New IL'ite

    Messages:
    21
    Likes Received:
    1
    Trophy Points:
    3
    Gender:
    Female
    An interesting thread to get us thinking!

    So what is that ONE quality I would like spouse to have - as in right now... Mmm... Let me see. I think there would be more than one, but if I HAVE to lay my bet on one it would be to be more broad-minded. Hubby is a typical conservative Indian guy, with somewhat set notions on life and family, women and career, kids and their upbringing. I think I am more the 'lets try things OUR way' kind. I mean WE are living this life right, not HIS parents, HIS friends, or so-and-so who is supposedly living the perfect life. I like to carve a life for ourselves, he thinks life can be fit into a pre-defined template. A formula. Wonder if that will ever change! I think mindsets are hard to change. But I do try anyway :biglaugh
     

Share This Page