What One Approves, Another Scorns

ennaye · Jan 8, 2009

Hi All,

I don't know if I am posting this in the correct forum but I am doing so for I usually post here.

So many ladies have problems with their in laws and while I do empathise with them and Ifeel all of us have the need to vent our feelings. (I do too!) But life must go on . Everybody has adjustments to make and its not only us.

Adjustments have to be made at all stages of life. As a daughter, as a sister, as a DIL and also as a MIL one has to make adjustments and those of us who can do so are the happiest.

I read a small peom , thought I will share this with you all. This is how it goes:

What One Approves, Another Scorns
What one approves,
another scorns,
and thus
his nature each discloses.
You find the rosebush
full of thorns,
I find the
thornbush full of roses.

A Very Happy New Year to all.

God Bless You.

ennaye · Feb 11, 2009

Its time to bump this up.

Rihana · Feb 11, 2009

And, having been through really draining times during in-laws visits and my parents vists, I say the bush is still there, and we are all still beating around the bush. Some of us who try to trim the bush are being called negative.

When we trim the bush, roses and thorns both get cut. When looking at the pile of rose bush trimmings, some only look at the roses that got cut, some look at the thorns that also got cut.

Just yesterday, the gardener trimmed the rose bushes in my garden down to the ground, so they will grow and thrive in a few months, come spring.

Enough said!

ennaye · Feb 11, 2009

Rihana said: ↑

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Enough said!
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Absulutely right!

raji_siv · Feb 11, 2009

hello,

according to me by love ,affection, adjustments, patience we can achieve anything. what do you say?

rr99 · Feb 15, 2009

raji_siv said: ↑

hello,

according to me by love ,affection, adjustments, patience we can achieve anything. what do you say?

I may sound cynical, but have you actually & truthfully acheived this end or are you only spouting a platitude?, Maybe you shd be advising this with the Plethora of Nasty MILs that hound the ladies here, See if you can reform them with that...:biggrin2:
I agree with Rihanna, The rosebush can't grow healthily without being hacked down once in a while .
All the same, It was a nice cute Poem Ennaye, no doubt composed by a dreamy poet! but, GET REAL!
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ennaye · Feb 15, 2009

rr99 said: ↑

raji_siv said: ↑

hello,

according to me by love ,affection, adjustments, patience we can achieve anything. what do you say?

I may sound cynical, but have you actually & truthfully acheived this end or are you only spouting a platitude?, Maybe you shd be advising this with the Plethora of Nasty MILs that hound the ladies here, See if you can reform them with that...:biggrin2:
I agree with Rihanna, The rosebush can't grow healthily without being hacked down once in a while .
[All the same, It was a nice cute Poem Ennaye, no doubt composed by a dreamy poet! but, GET REAL!]
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Thanks for appreciating someone's poem! And yes its for real. You have to set your own standards.

Regarding the gardener pruning the rose bush, as mentioned in a previous post by someone else, that is the whole problem.

The gardeners come with the sniper scissors, wanting to prune the bush the way they like it. The bush is not asking to be pruned.
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rr99 · Feb 15, 2009

The gardeners come with the sniper scissors, wanting to prune the bush the way they like it. The bush is not asking to be pruned.[/quote]

The reason why the bush needs to be pruned is for its own good, to prolong its health, A bush growing wild & uncontrolled tends to used up all resources around it, & eventually brings about its own decline.
& to reiterate my previous question, Have you any real evidence that this type of quote ever works with the people in error namely the toxic ILS etc?, How come such platitiudes are strewn about only to people who object to uncivil behaviour rather than those who exibhit the bad manners?