What Is Your Perspective?

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  1. BeautifulSmile

    BeautifulSmile Silver IL'ite

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    I have been in this Organization for 10+years, in the last 2 years had a very good career graph. Got promoted as a team lead for 2, now grown to development manager with 2 teams and 16 reportees. Works closely with around 8 different teams, and a very complex business. My contribution has made drastic improvements, client satisfactory feedback (though I wont directly interact with them but contribute to their work as a manager). Every team I interact with is very happy and received great feedback.

    Whereas the team is really great, lot of energy. Always up for new challenges, automations, optimizations, etc. My role is: I ahve 2 dedicated BAs who take care of business needs, I have great tech on the team to get the work done. But all are directionless. I get into the execution part of this work with great execution methods of distributing work, always suggesting the automations and optimizations. From there they will take it over. All is good so far right?

    Here is what I am super upset about: Today in town hall we had a great presentation about my entire team each and everyone and dedicated slide about me and my work by CEO with written all the feedback he has received from other directors and client. Such an amazing thing to celebrate right? But the team did recognize each other by calling the entire team name except me. A appreciated B C D so on but I am not there. Same B appreciated A, C,D everyone not for name sake they say my name.

    They don't include me because, they think I am not doing anything or because I am their boss dont feel comfortable or they dont see me as one of them? I have received all the appreciations and they do too, they always call out others but not me. But I make sure to call them out everytime I receive soemthing.

    When I talk to them in 1-1, they are happy with what I do no negative feedback. They seems happy. This feeling is runing my great achievements celebrations.

    Everyone thinks I should be very very happy with all these, but I am very very sad everytime I receive these my own teams are not appreciating me.
     
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  2. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    As all else is going great, this exclusion must be unintended.

    Maybe the first one to speak, was not sure if it is proper or how to include you in the appreciated list. The rest followed what the first did.

    Another possible reason could be that you work closely with eight teams and it is a very complex business.

    Are there more people who lead teams like you do? Do their teams acknowledge them in town hall type meetings?

    Then there are less pleasant reasons like maybe they resent your career graph. Or don't like reporting to a female boss.

    As all is well otherwise, leave it be. Don't bring this up in 1-1's or well after the exclusion.

    If you do have to bring up the exclusion, use humor and in the moment. The next time you are excluded, raise your hand, big smile and go, "And me...!!!" "Hey guys.. don't forget me..." Don't try this if it is not your style though. : )
     
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  3. nuss

    nuss Finest Post Winner

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    Many times it's unintentional. Team members probably don't know if they should say something about you.

    I see this with my work as well. All my trainees (whom I directly advise) will thank me in their presentations- "I am grateful for Dr. N for her mentorship...." on these lines). I am also on committees of so many advisees and work closely with them- things like- financial help through paying their assistantship from my grants, troubleshooting experiments, suggesting new direction/experiments/ writing letters of recommendation for awards, and on and on. But in many cases, they will only thank their main advisor and don't think about the peripheral advisor (me!). Sometimes I let it go and others use humor as @Rihana said- "hey, I don't see my name on that list" with a smile.

    I would suggest you bring it up in a more casual setting during a team meeting and say- "you guys totally left me out/ forgot about me...ouch, that hurts" so that they won't continue doing it. Or you can tell people to be inclusive and make sure that they give credit to all when credit is due. Part of being a boss is to help people learn these skills. We expect our trainees/team members to know this basic courtesy but many times they are at loss.
     
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    I believe I look at my team high and getting their appreciation means a lot to me than CEO, CTO, etc. How stupid I am ,lol. But I need to find my peace to live with it knowing them. May be as you @Rihana said its unintentional and they dont even know I am feeling this way. Or as you said @nuss I may have to teach them this soft skills like no one else feels like me in the future or existing team who are not part of that constant group appreciation. Overall these people are good with great heart and ethics.
     

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