What is the reason why brides can't adjust with in-laws?

Why is it that only "BRIDES" have to adjust? What about in-laws,groom.. don't they also have to adjust??

 

I hate the word "adjust".Especially since marriage.Why the hell do I have to when I fully accepted my H for what he is and not expected him to adjust in any way for me?If you and your parents can't accept the girl for the way she is then please manufacture a robo according to your family's tastes and marry it.

Adjustment comes automatically out of love and understanding each other over the years...it should never be demanded or forced out of somebody.

 

I never "adjusted" to my IL's and they love me just the same. Maybe not adjusting is the key

 

Lastly I would like to say that people won't remain happy by making a worse life for others.

This statement is wrong. Mils(espc Indian Mils) make dils life miserable and they are happy after making the situation worse.

 

That is very true. The sense of supremacy/power/control which MIL or co-sis gets always makes them satisfied!!

 

Abhishek.. Trust me none of us here intend to judge you by reading your profile ... We are spending time on the thread completely based on two assumptions

1) You have a problem which you "intend" to solve and hence starting a thread like this
2) You are open to hear different perspective from a bunch of unknown virtual people

Even though you state you are more than happy to be seperated from your wife.. I can read between the lines and see a hint of sadness how things have eventually turned out in your lives... Let me tell you one thing Abhishek.. if you were "more than happy" you would not have even started this thread !!!

My sincere suggestion to you..please don't take any feedback here as bashing though it may come across as just that... it is the collective voice of the DILs out there who have been misunderstood, wronged and even harrased in the name of tradition and respect ... your ex wife could be one among these and probably what is more important to you is that your future wife "should not be" one among these...

We certainly don't know what your problems were with you wife and if you don't intend to discuss it here, we respect that and I certainly would step out of this thread..

However, look at the whole situation with a perspective of a complete outsider and honestly assess where things went wrong and how "you" could have made a "difference"... I presume it would help you in the long run...

Okies... I sign off from the thread.. and trust me I wish only the best for you or for that matter anyone out there..

 

"You will find very few people starting with truths however they have more lies to say.. To prove oneself right and innocent, we have to make the other person wrong.. Please realize that nobody is perfect but it doesn't mean that you should take step blindly. As you know haste always makes waste.

There can be various reasons for divorce but a wise person will learn from his mistakes and will take care that they should not repeat again." --- OP

Do learn OP, but learn in right direction. And you will come near truth only when you have kept all your prejudices aside and are thinking clearly. Only when you also know what went wrong from not only your side, but also from your parents side. Its easier to accept our own mistakes than accepting that your parents have done wrong and ruined your life. Still harder is to point out their mistakes to them.

I don't know your background OP. But if you sincerely believe that above advice does not apply to you, then please ignore it. All the best to you

 

Hello frnd just one doubt. is it mandatory always that only husband and his parents are only wrong in all divorce? And wife can never wrong.

Wht abt greedy and controlling wife and woman who marry for money or marry as per parents’ choice but love other man? There r many women like dat who do like that
It is pure daydream if we thnk woman are never wrong in divorce

 

Hello frnd just one line. you chose to ignore my this sentence...