What Is Moral, What Is Immoral And What Is The Line Between Them

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Same here. H is very handsome, and he grows old to be more handsome than he was before.
And his profession is something sponsoring college students for further studies with foreign unis. This way, he gets to interact with so many young students, including smart, good looking young girls, who are much more extrovert and forward than us.
They call him often, not only for professional matters, but also to discuss their personal problems related to studies etc.. as they consider him as their mentor. Not just girls, but young boys too.
What I am trying to explain here is, that my H is way too much exposed to have loads of crushes and friendship outside of the marriage with opposite gender.
I know that, but I don't go very deep into what he talks with them or what they share.
As long as there is no red flags, and he is within the limits. So, I don't poke my nose too much into his private space.
I don't ask him anything about this, and he doesn't share anything with me voluntarily either. This is our bliss.

Exactly... not only me, but sometimes my H can be on the phone with his friend for hrs like a woman too.
Same me with... I have female friends, with them I ended up sharing my private matters to some extend. Which I will never share with a male friend regardless of how close they are with me.

 

I appreciate the way you handle things in life. Hats off.

But to be honest here, I am very different from you. I don't think I should fake myself to paint a goddess picture in this anonymous forum here.

Let me be very open here.

I do really enjoy when particular men or even women pay attention on me. It makes my day, specially if these men are my crushes.
But this kind of feelings don't last forever. It fades away with time.
At the same time, it doesn't mean I enjoy everyone's attention either. Sometimes, someone's comments make you nauseating too.

I dress well for myself, and for others as well. I like when I receive complements from others, including men for my dressing sense. It makes my day.
But then, I don't purposely dress up for others only. Just that, such appreciations and remarks from certain people make me happy.

As for flirts, I don't think I have flirted with anyone so far. I just don't feel comfortable doing it.
But when someone flirts with me, I draw the line and don't appreciate if they go beyond that line.

I am not someone who will discuss only politics and worldly affairs with men. I do that too, but more importantly I don't run away when men comes to discuss other matters with me.
Some even discuss their personal issues, and emotions openly with me. I give them an open heart, and an ear to listen, and if possible to give them a solution too.
That's why people find me friendly and approachable.

And more importantly I don't really think that people should appreciate me for my intelligence and knowledge alone. I just want to present myself as a woman.
So, any complement about my beauty, about my character, about my wisdom, about my parenting etc..etc.. makes my day.

Just that, I have the confidence about myself that I don't fall for cheap flirts and emotions, rather I can strictly maintain my lines, and make the other person respect the same too.
I do that with a class, and not necessarily by creating any drama.

A few years back, a colleague of mine tried flirting with me, just like how he would do that with other women.
He was proud about himself to be able to make many women fall for him. He calls himself a womanizer and have no remorse for that. He is indeed a good looking Spanish guy.

I was OK when he appreciated my dressing and intelligence initially. But in no time, i sensed his motives, so drew the line.
After a point, he opened up with me in private, and proposed for a relationship indirectly.
I did not create any drama or fuss about it. But told him firmly that I am not ready for it, because I preserve all my feelings and emotions for my H alone. Therefore, I will not appreciate such expectations hereafter.
That was it.
We are still friends, and we discuss many things openly.
He continue to thank me for putting him on track and that's why he has a friend for life.

I still believe, it is all about us. But at the same time, I suggest those who do not have control over their emotions, to stay away from other men.

 

Sorry, but I guess you have missed the discussion point here.
This thread is not about flirting, it is about the 5 different lines quoted below