My best friend directed me to this site. I live in US for the past 14 years. I used to work but recently quit my job. I am visiting India now, it is been 3 weeks. Everything was going smoothly, until my DH came here last week for a visit. We have 2 more weeks to return to US together. He is always behind his mom, never leaves his home. He won't even hug me in the privacy. He is quiet with me but always talks to his mom, he never sits beside me but fine to sit beside with his mom. Because of this one night we argued and his mom overheard it. I told my DH that we have only 2 more weeks to return to US. I have to visit some of my relatives and shop for the house. So I will go back to my parents, it is easier to do things over there. My DH agreed. After overhearing me and DH argument other day, my MIL is taking liberty to discuss all the things with me behind my DH. She never used to do that before. We used to speak to each other minimally. She came to me when my DH was not there and asked me if my kid can stay there while I was going to my parents place. First of all I was mad that my DH never stays at my parents place. I don't know what came to my mind I said, your son(my DH) is in his 40s and not ready to leave you when ever we visit India but how can I stay away from my little kid. Then she said she will not come to my house in US when she visits her daughter in US. Which is non relevant topic to discuss. I said whenever she visit US I loose peace of mind. After that my DH came and dropped us to parents house. He was unaware of this conversation. I don't know what went behind me at MIL's place, from next day my DH was not as usual. I guess they must have had a nice discussion and he might have gone through some brain washing. They both called and spoke to my sis and told her to advise me. He told her all the petty arguments/fights we had during our life together. Me and my sister are not close to each other all our lives, only recently we started to bond. My sister did not even tell me clearly when did they call, what all they told. She sat me down and talked to me like talking to some newly wed uneducated girl. She took my MIL and DH side and bashed me. She accused me saying my MIL is nice enough to call her and tell her to advice me! she could have barged in to my parents house and accused them. she also told me that my MIL could have married my DH to someone else!!!! (nonsense). She said you have to follow Indian culture, be submissive and all. I got furious and told her that she never was my well wisher and I don't expect anything from her. Now I am not in talking terms with her. Also, I came to know that my MIL told my sister, she will visit my sister's house. She told this to her the same day she told me that she will not come to my home!! how mean!! divide and con quire rule. Next day morning my DH appeared at my parents place in furious mood. I was quiet. I was the one who should be mad for going through that. He got irritated and told me that he will give me my passport and air ticket(it was at MIL's place) and I can go back to US all by myself. He will not come back to US. I am scared to death and lost all the hopes. I am in my worst days. Then today morning he came back again and is not in a good mood. He said he may extend India trip few more days. He will give me my passport. What should I do? My brain has become numb. I am shattered and my best friend and parents are consoling me. My mom says he is just threatening me. I was tired of feeling lonely in US and was enjoying holidays here. I have lot of relatives my parents side while very few DH side. DH and his mom always make my India trips miserable so that I don't like India now. I told my parents that after I return to US I may never come back to India until my MIL dies. Majority of Indian women are still in a bad shape. They will go through all the hard times just because of social pressure. It is hard to believe that if they can do this to me who is just visiting, what about dils who lives here? I spent almost half of my life in India and half of my life in US. What will I do if I end up staying here? I can not tolerate constant nagging from everyone. The first thing I want is freedom, without it life is miserable. What should I do now?