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What Is Aperger's Syndrome

Discussion in 'Schoolgoers & Teens' started by Roar, Dec 13, 2019.

  1. Amulet

    Amulet IL Hall of Fame

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    This is quite the case when our own regular, average, children face the "super achiever stereotype" of desi's in America.
    Added later after seeing the post below:
    All aspies do not have savant skills.
    All desi kids do not fit the desi stereotypes.​
    is all I said. No trivializing other people's issues at all.
     
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    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    No, not even close. I have an average, regular child and her struggles with Desi stereotypes are .00001% of my special need's child's. You don't have to opine about everything. Don't trivialize the struggles of someone you have no idea about.
     
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    I still have this issue but it seems to be working for some kids. I've been counseled about it being a part of accepting the child for who (s)he is. Many kids with HFA(which is Aspergers) are suicidal because of the high amount of anxiety that comes with being HFA. I've unfortunately known two moms around here who lost their HFA kids to suicide. I've been told to use the positive super power angle to help with the anxiety that social inadequacy and communication issues bring. There are books written on those lines. I'm still on the fence. I still feel learning social cues and not using the super power as a crutch is important. When I see my son's overpowering anxiety though, I want to do anything to take it away. We never get told what to do by therapists, teachers, doctors. Each child is unique and each child on the spectrum is unique as well. Nobody knows what works. If it worked for Greta and if she is able to as much as she is with her HFA then I'm happy for her. More power to her.
     
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    You are comparing apples to oranges. It's neither funny nor appropriate.
     
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    You can't compare this to autism kids.
     
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    @Amulet. ASD people don't become narcissists or abuse their spouses.
    Rehab Is not a joke.
    Take your bad sense of humor somewhere else.
     
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    Nothing confusing about this. I am a proud mother of a kid on the spectrum. As proud as I am of the other “normal” kid. If we can celebrate our normal kids with their weaknesses, why shouldn’t we celebrate our kids with their disorders ?

    It takes a lot of courage to parent a child with autism. Moreover, these kids also have their own strengths in navigating the confusing world of normal judgemental people. Even the tiniest of achievements deserves applause.



     
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    I love to celebrate my children. I'm out there bragging about both. I can't ever celebrate my DS's disorder. According to me, my DS is not his disorder. He has greatly enhanced abilities in certain areas and I'm proud of it. I always mention it to whoever care to listen. I can never say, Thank God for the Autism that my son has so and so skill. Or that his disorder gave him exemplary skills. He has the skill despite his struggles and I'm proud of that.
    This is the reason why I have mixed feelings about it.
     
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    There are days when my sons normal classmates ( very rarely adults too ) have been mean and judgmental about some very naive and innocent remark of his. Mean enough to break anyone’s spirit. On those days I do think I am glad for his disorder that makes him very unlike them.



     
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    Poor child. A little empathy goes such a long way. When will people learn to treat people a little different with some empathy?
    Hope he and you have found ways to tackle the bullying.

    I can understand that perspective. I didn't think of it that way.
     
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