I grew up with an overprotective mom (and dad) and I can say with all surety, it has left me emotionally dependent on them as an adult. I still look toward my parents for approval for any major decisions or purchases, though I'm "independent" in all other regard. It was with my parent's support and approval I started working in IT and married an Indian man through an arranged marriage. These two things are not particularly strange for a girl growing up in India, but I grew up in the US. There is a peculiar amount of closeness created by circumstance of being far away from any other family. I share a lot of my thoughts and beliefs with my mother and discuss philosophy and lifestyle thing. We're pretty close. But the problem now, is we have different beliefs about quality of life. Particularly, about depression. I think I have always had a penchant for clinical depression (though I have self-regulated mostly), but I was never diagnosed. Recently, I have noticed that it's really affecting my relationship with my son (since I'm afraid to cry uncontrollably or burst out, I suppress ALL my emotions). My depression is worsened by my husband, so I can hardly depend on him to help me out. Apparently, I'm too American, which is why I have American problems and make a big deal out of nothing. Previously, my mother knows about my mood swings and encourages me to exercise or take ashwagandha and other natural treatments. I was able to manage and pull myself out of depression with music or talking out my feelings or crafts or writing and reading. Recently, my husband has prevented my normal modes to pull myself back (he thinks I'm slacking off or doing "American" things - whatever that means) and I was trying to tell my mom about this issue and trying to reach out for encouragement, or a lifeline. She told me to toughen up and that now that I have a family, I can't do the things I used to do. This took me aback because I only opened up because I was struggling and feeling isolated from everything (no friends locally, and I hate to be a downer on the phone). But it made me reevaluate my relationship with my mom. She is the one person who is at my back and understands my flaws, but I have started feeling like I can't put 100% of my trust in her words backed by her beliefs. Anyway, I started to rant, but I what I really wanted to do, is ask everyone about their relationships with their mother and how much their mother's play a part on their life decisions, etc. What is a healthy relationship between mother and daughter, and what is actually detrimental?