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What does DW want?!

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by mstrue, Apr 27, 2010.

Do you 'think' you meet your DW's expectations? What percentage do you meet?

  1. 100%

    44.4%
  2. 75%

    33.3%
  3. 50%

    22.2%
  4. 25%

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  1. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    This is a parallel thread to the hot topic: http://www.indusladies.com/forums/me-and-my-spouse/92617-what-does-dh-want-8.html


    Come on Ladies, open up what is it that you want from your DHs.
    Let us try to be more clear than the blanket words 'thoughtful', 'understanding', 'caring', 'supportive', and such. Men bought their dictionary from elsewhere and I think it does not match our dictionary that close.

    Let us be more expressive. What would make us happy.. what upsets us..

    Men voice your opinion too, please.. What do you think a DW wants from her DH?
     
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  2. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    And Men who stumble upon this thread:

    Our friend Pingme has this Question for you guys exclusively.
    "What do men do to understand their partner? Do they seriously think what she wants and plan the timeline in their marriage?............. Just curious to know especially from men in this forum. "
     
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  3. Vidya21

    Vidya21 Senior IL'ite

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    What does DW want: In short - She wants the DH to play fair.

    There are a lot of other things too, the blanket things, but the bottomline is, as hard as marriage gets, its much easier to deal with everything if you know you are both being fair to each other and giving it a 100%.
    That was it, at least for me. :cheers
     
  4. asuitablegirl

    asuitablegirl Gold IL'ite

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    It's hard to sum up in words what I want. But when it happens, I KNOW. Like last night before going to sleep, my dh put his arm around me and said "I love you. You're my best friend." And I thought to myself, "I'm so glad he said that" because it felt so good to hear. Or when I have a procedure like blood test that I'm scared of, he'll call or text me with encouraging messages. So, I guess you could call that caring? I want him to actively care about me, and he does, so that's one thing I always want.

    Another thing is his self improvement. We had a REAL rocky beginning to our relationship due to his parents. And I wanted him to protect me from them and stand up for me totally. It took some time, but eventually he did. So support is my second thing I wanted. Without his support and had he not put his parents in their place, I would not have stayed in the marriage. But more than that, was his total self improvement. He stopped swearing at me, stopped using crazy insults, and got a control over his temper... he also quit smoking. All stuff I wanted a lot.

    Third thing I wanted for him, which I recently got, was opptimism. When I met my dh he was a very pessimistic person (i.e. saw the glass half empty). His whole entire family has a doom's day attitude about life. Over the years his negative outlook on EVERYTHING would wear on me and tire me out. But I always tried to pep talk him out of it and teach him the philosphy of being positive and hopeful. Just recently (as in past couple of months) I have noticed a total transformation in his thoughts. He is very positive now, even when things go wrong. He is now hopeful and opptimistic about life and his own capabilities. For his entire life his mom told him he wouldn't succeed in US because "he was an Indian in the white man's land" or in India because other Indians were "out to get him" or in Dubai because "the arabs only like their own" or with me because I'm "not right" for him. And my dh really internalized her negative predictons and took them to heart. But I've worked on undoing that negativity day in and day out for the past 5 years, and it's finally paid off because he's dumped his mom and is now relying on himself for confidence and inspiration. It's so great to hear him say "I CAN" instead of "I can't". When he has confidence in HIMSELF, it allows me to have confidence in our future together.

    So in brief, I wanted from him: Care, support, and a positive attitude. :thumbsup
     
  5. OOPALL

    OOPALL Silver IL'ite

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    What women want...LOVE, SUPPORT and APPRECIATION! It's that simple...(at least for me)

    Cheers!
    OOPALL!
     
  6. chocolate

    chocolate Platinum IL'ite

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    All we wives ever want is a little pampering from time to time. It can be impromptu sweet little things . By now all ladies have a good idea about marriage in my past.Yesterday, My husband was in rush to get to work. Before he was just stepping out of the door, I called him to give him a kiss. I do it sometimes. He just ran to the car. I was feeling very bad and quite frankly insulted.Then when he got back from work, I asked him why did he do that. He said he was in a hurry and didnt want to be late for work. I told him I just wanted to give him a kiss and too bad he didnt get it. Then he did something wonderful.He told me he wud like that kiss now and held out his arms.For somebody like my husband who never displays any emotions, it was a big surprise.That made me feel wonderful and of course we did have that kiss.:).Thats all we wives ask for. Some gestures of showing love and tenderness.
     
  7. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    Choc, very sweet post like your name.
    You may want to reiterate this sweet little thing here too. :thumbsup
    http://www.indusladies.com/forums/me-and-my-spouse/93442-did-your-dh-dw-sweep.html
     
  8. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    Yeah, real simple.. if you both use the same dictionary! :wink:
     
  9. OOPALL

    OOPALL Silver IL'ite

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    Being single, I don't have many expectations. I just expect it from me..LOL!
     
  10. mithy232

    mithy232 Silver IL'ite

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    Like OOPALL, even am single. I don't have anything to write here.

    Interesting threads MsTrue :cheers Keep going!!!
     

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