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What are th causes/remedies of DEPRESSION????

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  1. Mar 3, 2010 #11
    Nandshyam

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    Re: What are the causes/remedies of DEPRESSION????

    It can be of different reasons. If she is taking medicines, I assume she is following up with a specialist and I think that's the best approach.

    I guess than figuring out yourself what might be her problem, it would be best if you can morally support her and advice her if needed to get the RIGHT HELP.

    If she is going to a psychiatrist, its well and good, but from what I gather, psychologist makes wonders too. They are usually good in talk therapy and that is something she might need too, someone to pour out her feelings. May be it's not her surroundings, but her mind that is playing games and not making her feel or see the good things happening around her..
     
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    Few forms of depression that I've witnessed in my life:

    Menopause - for my mom.. she found a new friend in me.
    Post Partum - it got over for me with homeopathic med.
    Worthiness - it differs from person to person... some believe in materialistic output & some need spiritual.
    Studies - not able to perform well.. or come first.
    Job - not able to get the best job..

    Missing Son - My MIL & load many women who were really emotinally attached to their son :crazy.. I guess she regains her harmonal rush by creating rift between us.
     
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  3. Mar 3, 2010 #13
    meena2

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    Thank all. Your responses make me see things differently for my cousin.

    Her past ie., her childhood was fantastic. She is the only child and lot pampered by uncle and aunt. She had some problems adjusting with her dh initially after marriage but now she is well adjusted and does not have any battles like earlier.

    She is 35 and that is not menopause stage. So, got to rule out that possibility.
    The only thing I can think of is from last one year her husband has been traveling a lot, all related to work. On and off I have heard her saying that it is getting difficult for her managing alone. But I know she is active,independent lady and used to manage the household even when her husband was in town.
    May be that is bothering her but again she was the one who insisted her husband take up that job since that will add to his career growth. He hesitated initially since he has to travel a lot but she assured him everything will be fine.
    I don't know if that is now bothering her. Tried asking her and all she says is No! I am fine with his traveling. It is good atleast he has a job in this recession.

    I would like to hear from all of you, your opinions, ideas.
     
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  4. Mar 3, 2010 #14
    meena2

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    They had a dog and she is pretty busy with the dog all day. She takes him for walks and goes for exercises herself. She also does lot of volunteering at school. She keeps herself busy.

    She had a rough patch in the initial years of marriage but now it is all fine. May be she is recollecting that.....if what you say may turn out the reason.
    But, all of a sudden worrying and depressed for something that happened more than a decade ago??


    You have got a supportive husband. Your remedies though temporary, seem good.

    That is what I told her. To start practicing pranayama. Hope she considers it but if she is already into depression then will this help.
    Will she even think on these lines??

    I am very close to her. We meet often and share everything in detail like sisters.

    While trying to find psychologists we see there are so many types of them. Who do you think we should be considering?

    Shilpama, I dont think these apply to her except the worthiness factor. Sometimes she says she did a big mistake marrying at 19. She could have pursued her studies and done something. But then she jokes around and I feel she does not take it seriously. Later, she did her studies when in India and also worked in a bank here in US. So, I never thought she meant what she was saying.
    Do you think she must be serious with it but just joking around....is that possible??
     
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    Srama

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    I don't know how this is going to sound but this is what I feel. She is young, has enough responsibility and is doing everything she has to and can, to keep the life of everyone around her go smmothly. Unfortunately sometimes this can be real thankless and sometimes one cannot get the gratification that one needs and that can lead to depression. It is not that she is seeking something or that the family is not giving - I feel at one point we need to get in touch with our innersleves and do things to keep us happy. Reading from what you have written, she might also be going through a transitional phase and not realising it - kids getting more independent, husband more invloved with work and travelling etc. She might be going through that phase - most of the times, we have the ability to talk ourselves out of mind sets and move on and things can be normal. I think she is doing the right thing by seeking professional help - also yoga, meditation and just enrolling in to something whe will enjoy learning/doing or just doing what she likes (drawing, painting, crochet etc) will help her to get in touch with her self and she might soon start feeling much better. The only difference will be it has to be a deliberate conscious decision for her - either with the help of husband of freinds/cousins like you. I hope she feels better, really. Good luck.
     
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