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What’s The Worst Thing Your In-laws Have Done To You?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Patientone, May 27, 2021.

  1. Patientone

    Patientone Silver IL'ite

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    Was it you MIL/SIL/FIL? How did you handle it and does it still hurt you now?
     
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  2. Hopikrishnan

    Hopikrishnan Platinum IL'ite

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    Looks like you have something to say about your own experience to start off the thread. Go ahead, and tell. However, if it qualifies for a police complaint, you must go with the law, instead of an internet forum.

    That said, the most gruesome thing that had happened to many daughter in laws in India is the kerosene doused kitchen fire. The IPC 498A came into being because of all the domestic violence that happened in India.

    https://indiankanoon.org/doc/538436...kJL680LhL_-zoDTvOrHnDICilwu9N6uIqF7Nq7WLyQYKE
     
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    Anusha2917 Finest Post Winner

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    @Hopikrishnan the question in the title box is very clear. OP wants our experience to be shared here and not what you read on the internet.

    Please don't make this an other thread to shame/bash India .

    You have a first hand experience for the question asked then do share.
    I'm sure she is aware of resources where she can read /research about the kerosene incident
     
  4. WannabValerie

    WannabValerie Silver IL'ite

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    Firstly, giving debts as inheritance to their son
    ..they exhausted all their money and started borrowing knowing that he will get a job shortly
    Secondly, 'inheriting' large amounts of weath from their son and going around saying its theirs
    Thirdly, writing away all that to sil and niece and still continuing aquiring wealth from their son. My H has health problems but they still would disown him if he utters a 'no'. My H lives to serve them. Such is the up bringing.

    Actually I did not expect any better from them. Its the H part that I miscalculted that he will care for a family he created. Well, not.

    I am the one who saves for kids. He can live with that but not with his parents rejection.

    Dont marry guys from andhra region, male babies are taken off thier spines there.
     
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    Janakinarne Silver IL'ite

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    Dear I just want to correct u,not total andhara guys wil be like that..there are particular places where the female dominance wil be dre in families like they won’t allow husband to talk or to take charge of family they keep everything in there hands even financial matters and wil do wat ever dy want ..if a guy frm that family wil think his mom is angel and she sacrificed everything for them and he keep on praying his mom and sacrifice dre lives to them and asks there spouse to do d same,it’s a inburth technique to those area people to act and talk as like that like east Godavari and west Godavari and Krishna district people ...elders used to say not to marry a girl frm dse areas
    I think u r totally frustrated wth ur in-laws
     
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    Tamil nadu too.:BangHead:.its more like an Indian thing
     
  7. Mistt

    Mistt IL Hall of Fame

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    I understood your feelings totally but we can't generalize anything based on our personal situation/belief. People's mind set isn't depend on their region but it relates to their upbringing and character.
     
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    WannabValerie Silver IL'ite

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    @Janakinarne yes andhra I meant andhra belt...
    @Mistt ... I was giving review like we give about amazon products..my rating 1/5... :icon_writing:people might give a 5, the lucky ones!
     
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    My in-laws take indirect digs at me and my family.. which are quite hurtful and hard to forget.
    They complain on me to dh and other relatives. They Keep me out of the loop in family matters.. don't talk or ask about my parents/family.. criticize everything I do.
    I haven't learnt how to deal with them. If I give back, they just increase the insults..
     
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    It's a Pan-India problem. Mama doesn't let the spine grow!
     
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