Hi needCBT, urs is a very sensitive issue. I have faced this situation as soon as my wedding completeddoh1. I can estimate ur fear levels as u have mentioned as "sick" mil. U feel that she might ask word from u. wat I can suggest is , when they raise this issue u gently ask ur mil whether u were picked by her to get married to his son or didn't he reject any other girls, their parents showed to him before? And your sil, did she married the first boy her mother picked for her? Surely not. So, just say that how can u give the word on behalf of ur girl and don't ewant to encourage in the view of future of both ur daughter and ur sil son.