Wearing Black Thread on Left Wrist to Protect Marriage from Evil Eye

Hello,

There have been some misunderstandings in my marriage,and now that I realized the background story, I feel really bad for my husband.

My husband advised me to wear a black thread on my left wrist to protect from evil eye from people who are jealous we are married

1. People are jealous of my husband because he married US Citizen
2. People are jealous of me because they thought I was too stupid to ever get married, let alone, get married to a handsome young man who has a kind heart

He told me to chant OM SAI RAM 21 times before wearing the black thread, then to chant OM SAI RAM 21 more times while holding the black thread.

Then I tied the black thread (from a sewing kit), around my wrist.

At one point, the knot got loose, so I simply tightened it. Is this ok, or do I need to get a new thread? Also, how often should I change the thread? And are there any other things I can do to protect my marriage.

I mean, I began to think positive early this year, I learned to think of God, and I believe that my positive thinking united me with my Darling Husband.

My husband says to ask him anything if something is bothering me, but I feel that because I nitpick, it may drive him crazy.

Can you married ladies give some advice.

I feel privileged and honored to marry this man. How to ensure happy married life. How to ensure that we still talk silly, romantic nonsense even when we have great-grandchildren.

Please help!!!!!!!


Edit: It is the respected elder who arranged this match that has been creating this misunderstanding. Unintentional, but based on how he sees the world. Not everyone sees the world a different way, but this elder has a lot of good, respectable qualities as well. If anyone else would have created the misunderstanding, I would have simply brushed it off.

 

Yes, I chanted OM SAI RAM 21 times before holding the thread, then I chanted OM SAI RAM 21 timese while holding the thread, then I tied it on my wrist.

about an hour later, I noticed I didn't tie the thread properly, so I tied it again even though the black thread was already on my wrist.

Should I remome the thread and do it again, or am I ok?

 

Me too!

And this best part is, this person had no bad intentions, that I am 100% positive, but it my elder's perception, and my poor perception of myself that created this misunderstanding for my poor Darling Husband to have to defend himself and feel sad

I pray to God to keep our marriage strong, and that we love each other more and more as the years go by, and to give us strength to overcome any obstacles.

He's very good with that

Right now he is in India, because Visa process takes months and months ..... but we call each other every day, and chat on Internet

That's a wonderful idea. When he comes, we shall set this up. I'm still learning this process, it is quite fascinating, and helps me to calm down somewhat.....

I would love that. I love spending time with him. I am grateful to God for joining us in Holy Matrimony.

Interesting ..... even will-wishers can create Nazar. I know there were several people who were resentful of the fact that he was marrying a US citizen. Worse, there was a distant cousin who was interested in matrimonial alliance with me just to get US citizenship, but it didn't work out (and I didn't like him too much). Yet, when this distant cousin attended with his parents, and they were in my presence, I couldn't help but feel tensed .... perhaps they were wishing it is their son getting married to the person who has their ticket to USA, rather than someone else who may truly love me ....there were so many dynamics going on

Well, I keep paper flowers to decorate my room ..... perhaps I can keep the old thread there. When things clear up, and I am with hubby, we can also get real plants as well ....

I shall see this as well

Even though circumstances were hectic after marriage to the love of my life, I feel this is the best year, best holiday season ever. My Darling Husband is in my heart, and that makes life easier to bear.....

I agree!!!

 

Definately!!!! That's why I'm trying to calm myself down. I've been surrounded with broken people from broken marriages, yet I know it is possible to have a long, happy, loving marriage - I just don't know how, I am slowly learning...

And this is coming from a person I respect very much, who actually found me my darling husband and said he is the one. And for the first time, I agreed!!!

Yes, that's how it feels. We chatted and talked over Internet before we did the traditional marriage ceremony with friends and relatives, and now we chatting and talking over Internet, phone even more. It does feel like dating.

I wasn't angry with him, I called him on the phone and just started crying for an hour, and he was trying to calm me down. Now he is going to all lengths to fix my misconception, but sometimes when he does something I didn't expect, I start to get worried, but I don't want to keep nagging him.....then I find out my understanding of the situation is wrong.......I don't want to overanalyze anything because it creates problems that didn't exist in the first place. I am trying to do my best......

 

I am so guilty of this.

I am still getting to know my husband. Just now I noticed something and I freaked out. I tried to call him to sweetly ask him, but (fortunately), he was asleep.

Then, I tried to calm myself down and act normal, and wrote a message to him on Internet.

Now, I feel I over-reacted, and now I changed my mood and started writing comical things to him (he will see my messages when he wakes up in morning in India.....)

If he does something that I am puzzled by, I will sweetly ask him. And if it seems like I'm insecure, I'll ask him to forgive me and explain that we are both new in marriage and I've been surrounded by broken people from broken marriages (I told him this on our wedding night).

I believe he will be understanding because I am being honest with him and not hiding how vulnerable I feel......