Ways to manage anger...

There is nothing in the world as destructive and harmful as anger. It destroys our peace and happiness of life. It pollutes our mind and forces us to engage in negative actions that lead to untold suffering in future lives. Researchers have found that anger problems and depressive symptoms have been linked to all major causes of death. Unhealthy habits such as smoking, overeating or drinking alcohol etc are caused by anger and may contribute to chest pain, heart attack and stroke. High blood pressure and high cholesterol usually go hand in hand with extreme lifestyles of overeating and smoking and so forth. Anger elevates blood pressure and is one of the core causes of depression and anxiety disorders. It is the grievous result of frustration, hurt, annoyance, disappointment, harassment and dissatisfaction. Though it is a stage of unrealistic mind, anger is a natural emotion until it destructs something.

The first three main mantra for anger management are- express, suppress and calm. Along with these an anger management plan can help you to leave a healthy life.

· At first you have to find out the source of your mood. Use rational thoughts like instead of telling yourself, "oh, it's awful, it's terrible, everything's ruined," tell yourself,” that “it's understandable and I have to manage it”.
· Be optimistic, positive and never loose hope and always ask yourself, “Is this going to give something very healthy?”
· Sometimes, our anger and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives. In normal mood think about that and try to identify your problems.
· Using silly humor can help to defuse your rage in a number of ways. Read some jokes, think about any funny situation that you have experienced or talk to any interesting person.
· For married couples, identify the timings and situations of your fighting and change it accordingly. For example, you often fight at night after dinner when you start any important discussion, so change the timings, that time perhaps you both are tired or bored.
· Use the most powerful tool to manage anger is meditation i.e. deep breathing specially the ‘Om Meditation’. Chanting of which slowly and repeatedly will give you immense relaxation.
· Dissolve your ego as far as possible. Remember that you are too much angry means you are a psychologically weak person. Anger is another name of fear and inferiority complex.
· Spend at least a little time with your pets.
· Always forgive others for your own good but never forget the matter, keep it in mind but in a simple way.
Remember, you can't eliminate anger but you can manage it if you try hard. So, unless you try hard to control it, it will control you and drag you to an unhappy life.
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