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  1. honeybunny123

    honeybunny123 Senior IL'ite

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    How would any of you react if you were told by your husband that he does not want any more child with you ? I have become numb after all these years of being in an abusive relationship to react in any way .
     
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    BhumiBabe Platinum IL'ite

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    If I loved him, I would ask him why. If I didn't, I wouldn't react at all. It would actually be a blessing.
     
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    Sandycandy IL Hall of Fame

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    Would you want a child with a man that does not think you are worthy enough of being a mother to his children?
     
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    JustAnotherMom Platinum IL'ite

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    He doesn't want any more children
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    He wants child/ children but not with you

    If it's the first and you already have at least one child, I don't know if its abuse. There are many people who don't want a second child.
    If its the latter, I don't see a reason why you stay back in this relationship.
     
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    fallen New IL'ite

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    So hurtful.

    By your post, it sounds like you would like a child.

    what are his reasons?

    if this is an abusive marriage...what do you think will happen with an addition of a child?

    personally for me, it got worse.
    if i didnt have any children, i would have left him long time ago.

    so please think carefully and talk to us here...or your friends.
     
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    honeybunny123 Senior IL'ite

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    Hi All,
    Thanks for replying . The marriage is not a happy one and is abusive . I already have a child and my second was still born due to heart complications. I did not want another child due to all these issues . But thinking of my first born being without any direct blood relatives after her parents are no more ,the thought recently came up . My husband has been asking me as well about it . So I went to my doc to discuss on pre conception . While speaking about it to him I just said he will have to stop alcohol if we are planning . He drinks every day and I wasn’t setting a condition . It was just for a healthy child. It triggered him and went on to say that he doesn’t need me or the child and doesn’t want to have any child with me .Hd has anger issues and is emotionally abusive. I am never good enough , anything and everything I do is criticised.
     

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