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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Lonla, Feb 28, 2016.

  1. Lonla

    Lonla New IL'ite

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    Hello Ladies,

    Do you think its wrong (or not considered good) if your husband washes the plate you ate in? I am not sure of this and never thought any difference between wife washing her husbands plate or vice versa. I am totally confused.

    Thanks.
     
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  2. yellowmango

    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    If he is okay with you washing his plate then it is okay.Don't make it an issue if he is okay with it.If he doing it ,then appreciate the contribution to household work.
     
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    kcb IL Hall of Fame

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    Is it a big issue OP?

    Not at all wrong if husband washes wive's plate. It is just a plate, not an untouchable item....
     
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    It's just a dish needing a wash. Why care who does it for whom?
     
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    generic Gold IL'ite

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    Not at all wrong..nothing is wrong b/w husband and wife if there is mutual respect..but in many cultures in India, in laws get offended if they see their son washing DIL's plate..but they do not mind if the DIL washes the son's plate..but then , this is joint family dynamics..
     
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    Gladimeir15 Junior IL'ite

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    It is not wrong if your husband washes the dishes where you ate. It was due to the misconception that make it wrong. Equality is better to exercise at home.
     
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    maya9876 Silver IL'ite

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    Is it wrong for you to wash your husband's plate? Is it wrong for you to do your husbands laundry ? Nope
    Then how can it be wrong if your husband washes your plate ? What is he ..God?.. that you dont want him to dirty his hands?
    Silly indian misconceptions!
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Plate is a plate, now it needs a wash. Don't confuse it with whose plate is that, and who washes it. No matter what, both spouses should share the family responsibilities as per their capacity. There is no black and white solution to it.
     
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  9. Anusuya

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    nope i donot think its wrong. if hubby does gives a hand in house chores, it will be wonderful, also show how much he loves and cares about her.
     
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    Katakam123 Silver IL'ite

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    I think it is not wrong for husband to wash ur plate, he should be doing everything that u do in the house , besides physical n biological there is no diff between man n woman
     
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