Hello all. I have not been talking to my MIL for some time now. Went to her place few times just one day trip, I didn't talk to her. Just answered if she asked something. DH was ok with it. He said it's ok if I don't talk but just follow him to visit her. Few days back she came and stayed at our place. Obviously I was not happy of her coming. DH said he can't stop her from coming. He said she is getting old and pleaded me to forgive her. He said he is scared he will regret later if he tells her not to come to our place. I perfectly understand his situation. She is his mother and he has responsibilities towards her. But I can't digest the fact that she is happily enjoying the care of my DH even though my DH knows (she knows that) she had bad mouth and mistreated me in several occasions. Also do let me to make a thing very clear to get a better perspective. Overall she is a good MIL compared to so many evil MILs out there. But yet I think it definitely differs to one person to another. For some what she did may not be a big issue and can easily brush it off but for me the things she said/ did keep lingering in my mind all the time making me angry and upset. I told my DH not to bring her to our place. I'm definitely going to show face etc but DH brought her. I'm angry and upset that he refuse to understand and respect my feeling but at the same time I do understand he has got no choice. He is not the type of son who is rude and disrespectful to his mother. I didn't even welcome her when she came. She spoke to me few times asking what to cook. I just answered in word one. For the first time all these years I didn't talk to my husband infront her. I never replied when he asked something. I want her to know she is creating problem between us so she should not come to our place. I have told my DH for now I don't want her to come to our house, DH can go visit her whenever he wants. Even though he has other siblings, the responsibility to look after her will only fall on us. I told him if in future she becomes too weak or ill don't worry she can come here I will look after. So during her few days stay here she was angry as I didn't talk/ response to her son properly (including didn't bother her), she showed her anger by banging hard the utensils in the kitchen. I also responded by banging the room door! She left this morning without saying anything to me. DH went to send her back. Now I'm a bit nervous how would DH react to me after coming back for treating his mother like that. Very likely he will just give silent treatment. Any advice how should I talk to him to express what/ how I'm feeling? Thank you.