Was I wrong???

akruti9,

I believe you shouldn't have taken boxes from her room. I know she did take without consulting you but you should have waited for more time or you should have a talk with her.
They think they have liberty to take anything in the house. My MIL does all the time and I don't even try to enter her room. Because she is very careful with her belongings and even she let kids comes to her room. So you need to understand the personality first. Even my mother would get offended for small things.

I beleive with the odler generation,they are in there own way for long time and running there own families and when they come daughter or son's house,sometimes they don't know what to fallow and what not to fallow.They get confused how to live in other's house.

So overall I beleive you shouldn't have removed the boxes from her room when she is not there.

 

Hi akruti,

Why does she become a thief when u want to gift her with a new set of storage boxes?..can't she think straight?..
Well the matter was between u, DH and MIL.. Who had invited FIL to interfere ?.. couldn't he mind his business?..
BTW is ur storage box a public property that she didn't even ask u before taking them?.. Try doing that to her stuff.. how will she react then?..

 

akruti9,

Buy some storage with locker like in India and keep expensive stuff and imporatnt stuff there.
I typically put the jewelry in locker. So put most of the jewels in locker before they reach and other things put it in storage. Even if they are checking papers, you don't have to worry much., If your husband get annoyed let him deal with them.
If they take something from your house, let it be (small things).
What I observed with my MIL, she doesn't want buy anything from outside which means wasting money but if they take something from house, that’s ok because we will have more stuff at home and which is unnecessary in there mind. It’s funny that, my MIL also packs grocery also., which my husband also knows and he laughs it off, it’s her nature.
So don't get worry too much on it.Keeep important thing in one place and rest leave it.

 

I think you should have ignored and not worried about the boxes. Simple not worrying about it, would have given you peace for those 10 days, right?

See, there are some things in life which can be earned back and some treasures. You know what those are in your life. Those jeweleries that you think are YOURS and cannot be shared, why keep it in a way that everyone can access it? Are you indirectly implying you are OK with everyone using it? No right? Then why don't you keep them safe in your locker, thus YOURS stay YOURS?

You keep saying she is possessive, but jump outside your skin for a minute and look at yourself as a third person, aren't you the same?

Privacy, are you upset that your life is disturbed for those 5 weeks of someone staying with you and interrupting your life? OK, let me ask you onething, you are married to this family, you are not a guest right? Is your room off-limits to your parents when they visit you as well? Leading a peaceful life with people other than yourself is a challenge, I agree, but at the same time, one has to work it out in such a way that it balances out everyone's feeling. THINK. Except for these petty issues, is your life good? Are you being tortured day in and day out like many women out there? Are you living a loveless life? Are you being treated like a piece of furniture by your husband and his family? Look at the brighter side. Yes they get into your nerves by checking everything possible in their short visit. But is it a nerve wrecking issue? NO.

Parents are looking after their son, atleast that's a possibility right, running in their mind? Shouldn't we respect that? End of the day, you are the wife and you&your husband are the only ones who's going to lead YOUR life. So why bother with these petty things?

 

hai

what happend to me uknow?
at our home some stuff is there which belongs to her
like some kichen items and her blanket etc........

when my mil came to my home that day i went to college.
and i didnt lock my rack and i never lock that and i even dont know where is the keys.

when i return to home i was surprised that she open my rack and throwm my all new dresses out side and put her blanket there,which is very very old.

just what i did u know,first thing is i thorwn that blanket to open self in another bed room which we dont use and the 2nd thing is
i searched for keys and i locked my rack.

thats it.my job was done.

that time iam angry but when i remember i will laugh now.how funny she is?

so just maintain ur jewelry and important bills in a separate rack and lock it.
u r suffering by thinking that they are coming.right?
why dont u make that, they should scare to come to u?
u take a initiation to talk.
or be in ur world those days.
thats it.