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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by cpriyanka, Apr 5, 2012.

  1. swarnalata.N.S.

    swarnalata.N.S. Platinum IL'ite

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    If you have faith in your husband, that is enough. If you feel insecure that another woman is trying to get close to him, you must be thinking your husband has no self control, he will fall for her etc, which means either you dont know him well, as you should. Or you are suspicious by nature.
    Just sit with him and talk frankly. Tell him that woman is getting on your nerves. He will understand and see to it that there will be no occassions or chance for that woman to flirt with him.
     
  2. cpriyanka

    cpriyanka New IL'ite

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    I can't be with my husband all the time to see if she is flirting or not..nor can i ask him at the end of the day, if she flirted or not..because that would sound being more insecure..

    and i don't think i am suspicious by nature because as i said in previous reply that i was pretty much ok about them being frnds uptill yesterday..and she is not the only female frnd of his ..i am ok with other girls behaviour..

    i have given idea to my husband that this girl is getting on my nerves..i don't think my husband initiated from his side for such kind of behavior..i just want to make sure that she is clear about what i am thinking without spoiling relation..
     
  3. Hyral

    Hyral Gold IL'ite

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    Yup...All the best to you and many good wishes to you....am sure msg will be conveyed and the gal's mind would go straight....lolzz and still if you feel things are not controllable and if this repeats in case...talk to that silly gal's BF ....if he fails to understand than leave their company after all they are friends and not relative with whom you have to maintain relations no matter what...after all its more impt for you to keep ur marriage safe....
    God Bless you both :)
     
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  4. RamyaSridhar1978

    RamyaSridhar1978 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi cpriyanka
    I think what your husband says is right acc to me her moves were intentional to attract her bf,s attention. To make him jealous . I don't think there is anything to suspect ur husband over. May be that girl and her bf have to patch up. .. Why spoil ur happy married life doubting about her intentions. Like mega said u shd approach her point blank over her bf.
     
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    silvertulip Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi dear..yes u trust ur DH but u cant trust that girl! So better keep a check on him indirectly.You cant control ur DH's actions all the time but u can send a signal to that girl to stay off by ur actions! Like others said, tell her indirectly that u find the girls very cheap who try to make their BFs jealous by flirting with other men or ask her in front of others, "y aint u sitting with ur BF? U guys have fought or something serious?"
    I know u don't wanna sound suspicious or insecure, but then learn to surprise ur DH by flirting with him, coz his attention will divert to u than to that girl! Send him some flirty text msg or, hold his hand while walking or sitting somewhere when that girl is around (she needs to get the msg that ur DH is not available to her for her cheap games!) or drop in suddenly to his office, or do anything which makes u two feel as if u guys were dating each other! Bring up that spark back in ur love life so that u two feel refreshed and also keep that girl away! :)
     
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    cpriyanka New IL'ite

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    hey thanks to all for your suggestions..i would surely try them out and would make sure that this girl get the right message..
    thanks a lot again for such prompt replies..:)
     

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