My ILs are generally nice and they're living with us presently. As such I have no problems with them and we are very loving and cordial with each other. However there have been a couple of instances in the past where I was misunderstood and and there have been times where I felt they were unreasonable. So now, even though I am very nice to them and all, I can't be totally free and I am very careful in choosing my words when I am around them. I used to be very open in my communication before, but now I try and think twice before saying anything in fear of crossing the fine line. I have also slowly begun to realize that in spite of being married, the only person with whom I still can be myself, is my mom. There just are so many mind games involved with your husband and your in-laws! It's funny how with each step in life, the bond with my mom only increases. I don't know if any of you feel the same way?