Visa Issues and Marriage

This is happening with one of my friend. She was my neighbor here...

Her husband was on h1 visa in the USA. They got married and she came here on H4. After two years, they went to India on a trip for a month. In India, her husband got his own stamping done and not hers, and told her about it later. He never told her he is doing his stamping. His justification was the project is only for three more months so there was no point taking her along. He intended to fly back in a week and wanted her to stay back in India with her in-laws.

My friend panicked a big time. She says she saw his company's cover letter where it was clearly written that his responsibilities are for 24 months. She couldn't trust his intentions. She took his passport, his documents and fled to her parents. After that she insisted she is not handing it over unless he books the slot for her H4 stamping interview.

This happened some three months back. He never was able to join the project and eventually lost his job, it seems. He and his parents are furious while her side is deeply suspicious. While he says that because the company matters are always uncertain and his project is really for 3 months only, the cover letter was for visa purpose only, etc. She says that she was never told anything about his project being short term, that she had left her whole house the way it is because she thought she is coming just on a vacation and most importantly the stamping, return ticket booking, etc was carried out so clandestinely she fears he is planning to dessert her. His parents were aware it seems, and they only advised her not to tell her anything for time being. Whether it was told kindly or maliciously, I have no way of knowing. :coffee

Although she is now ready for reconciliation, he wants nothing to do with her and is still looking for a job. Looks like he paid just too heavily for hiding things from his wife. :drowning I simply don't know how to take it. They seemed a happy couple when they were here, don't know why her husband hid things or why she suddenly lost all trust. :bonk

Wanted to share this with you friends. What should they/she/he do now? Who was right or rather who was more wrong? Just pour in your thoughts........

 

Exactly SreeSri.... That is what bugs me. And another thing is they had come to India just on a vacation. Companies rarely terminate your project or delegate you to new ones when you are on leave. And if he knew that the project was only for 3 more months, and he anyways have to go back to India after that time, why did take this trip at all? It wasn't as if there was someone's wedding or someone was ill. :confused2:

On the other hand, I find her reaction of taking the passport and documents, causing him to loose his job, a bit extreme too.

 

DH spoke to friend's DH. Thats how I've given his version too. And they were our next door neighbors. We would have heard them fighting, if things were so bad between them. We saw them practically everyday, and never was there anything that looked wrong with them.

 

That is the reason she and her family came to the conclusion that he was trying to dessert her and never meant to take her back. And took the extreme steps of confiscating his passport....

 

Don't you think they tried that? Police, as well as their lawyers, just told them that his passport and documents are neither lost nor stolen, but in the safe custody of his wife, who is, in fact, a legal secondary guardian of these things. They stand no case (as he is the one denying her a residence by refusing to take her) Law works differently than logic, I guess