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Very Confused- Please Help!!!

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by g3viks, Sep 3, 2019.

  1. Thoughtful

    Thoughtful Silver IL'ite

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    I would say, kids are not ready for an opinion, leave them out of the decision making process. Change is fearful for most unless something is pushing them to do something about a situation.

    Only one who is uncomfortable about this situation is you. Others will try to convince you to suffer. You need to take a stand.

    If your hubby is having hard time in his office among colleagues and his team, he will look for another option. Will he listen if you say, the kids want to stay here, I like it here, please put up with your office.
     
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  2. HariLakhera

    HariLakhera Finest Post Winner

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    I am in USA for the last three years and have been coming here off and on during the past 20 years. I am a senior citizen and my list of negatives and positives may not help much. But I will try:
    Positives:
    1. As I said earlier, if you have a well paying job (it will depend on the standard of life you are used to) that can take care of your routine expenses, EMIs and savings for retirement, it is worth living in India. I find USA is costly in many respect. Very few can afford a full time maid and cook and babysitter.
    2. If you can live in harmony with friends and relatives without being judgemental, India is good.
    3. India has variety in food, dress, entertainment, shopping and all that.
    4. You will never feel lonely in India, unless you choose to.
    5. Reaching to workplace can be torturous unless it is connected to metro line or you live close to office. Driving and parking is little tough in crowded places and with people who have little respect for traffic rules.
    As far as I am concerned I keep on shuttling between two countries and spent most of life in India. I am happy at both places. In USA one can feel lonely if there are no hobbies like reading, writing, other activities like walking, exercises, yoga and of course helping in household chorus in whatever way you can.
    In your case, as I understand, it may be tough in the beginning as children will take time to adjust. For them it is like uprooting them. But then it will be more difficult at a later stage. Most importantly it must be a joint decision of you as a couple.
    Take it as an advice with all sincerity at my command.
     
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  3. anika987

    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    Thank you so much
     
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    Laks09 Staff Member Finest Post Winner

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    How differently men and women respond no? I was talking about your kids and summer break thread that you seem to have started there too.
    It’s nice to compare and contrast between forums and gauge responses and the difference between the way women think and men think - mostly emotional with some practical stuff sprinkled in between Vs most practical with itti si emotions hidden :) Felt nice reading your thread there!
     
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