Venting out - a bit annoyed

Chap ra dear , you are a sensible . kudos

 

Whatever happens when your inlaws are here, never ever talk to them directly about your financial situations. Talk to your hubby, let him talk to them. One direct conversation from you with them will make you have the tag 'family splitter' for rest of your life. Be very very careful about delicate conversations. Let hubby do all the talking. You keep a straight face. It is strange, inlaws will forgive their children(son/daughter) in a jiffy, but never their dil. They will readily forgive the sil as well strange world we live in

 

People who can understand will understand the position even without our telling whether they are parents or parents-in-law.
Open discussions will solve many a problem.
Jayasala 42

 

That is good of you !

It is nice when we have control of the situations. But I guess in this situation, there is not much control in your hand, making you annoyed. Am sure, you may have to juggle things a bit to get things moving. My recommendation would be to divide finances, as "must", "nice to have" and "for later or by alternate methods".

eg. In-laws tickets & insurance or must.. but changing car now, could be Not through hot-cash but through Car-loans. We prefer car-loan, as it builds your credit report, the interest is less (in our case 200$ max for a BMW for 1 yr loan, which is at times less than our car-rental for 1 trip), and you get to keep the cash aside by selling your old-car too. The interest rates at Credit Unions are way less, also through car-dealers during their specials. Try if that works.

PS: Didnt mean to preach.. Just sharing so it could be useful to you or anyone who may come across this thread later.

 

sometimes it might be by experience. Kyunki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi. (Be cause, mil was also a dil )