Little background- Happily married for 7 yrs with full time job and 1 baby. Relationship between my parents and in-laws is very bad, they fought right on our wedding day and my FIL didn’t attend our reception and they were not in talking terms for about 4 years btw mine is arranged marriage. My dad broke silence as my SIL got diagnosed with cancer and passed away later. Now they have ok relationship. I learned how to deal with this situation. My in-laws never spoke ill of me and treated me well. My husband is only son with 2 sisters. He came to US with 1 semester fees on hand and he completed MS on his own, cleared off student loan on his own. Before marriage he sent money to FIL for house expenses and elder SIL marriage. After marriage it continued and I was not bothered by it as FIL is a farmer and trying to make ends meet. 2 years after my marriage my elder SIL got diagnosed with cancer and her husband and SIL-IL started to treat her badly. So my IL went to stay with SIL to help her with treatment and all the treatment cost including the fair for taxi, medications, daily household cost like buying veggies are all done using money sent by dh. We spent a big chunk of our savings. I supported dh and IL thru this tough time, after all she is my SIL and was in terrible condition. This sending money got out of hand with my younger SIL marriage, dh was emotionally blackmailed to give up all our savings by FIL. FIL point is no one will marry younger SIL as elder one died with cancer at young age and was forced to give huge dowry or other choice was to get younger SIL marry the elder SIL widowed husband(its tradition in dh village). We spent all our savings to keep peace at home. DH is sweet gives me equal importance, we always makes decisions together. Now all DH relatives including FIL think we are making lot of money. I feel FIL is not thinking that we need to save for our future. In addition to monthly expenses from past 2 years he started to ask for car as its getting difficult to go around in two wheeler, need new home as current home is very small, need money to buy plot on MIL name and now latest is they want to buy a farm land adjacent to ours to give to elder SIL daughter(FIL promised SIL on death bed that we will give farm land to her daughter). DH said no to car and new home. My IL think that since my DH is only son he will get all the property and hence he is expected to take care of their expenses. I am fine with medical bills, daily expenses and occasional gift to SIL but not the rest. Note that none of the FIL property is in my DH name and all the farm land is ancestry property. I firmly believe that girls have equal right in property and responsibility. DH and myself decided to not invest any money in India as we do not have any intension of going back, well at least for now. Here are my problems: 1. DH told FIL that we bought new house and IL knows we do not have cash, and still FIL asks for more money to buy farm. I do not understand why we are responsible for every money need at home be it 10k medical bill or 25L property deal. How to make them understand what we earn is our money and not IL’s and it is not ok to ask us money? 2. How to handle this view of all property belongs to DH and that he is responsible for all expenses even though there is nothing written legally on DH name? Younger SIL is not working and tricky to handle, I am sure she will create fuss in future. I am not greedy and at the same time I want to be cautious(after losing 5 yrs worth savings I am not ready to risk anymore). I am asking DH to get at least some farms (equivalent of what we spent on them) on his name, but he thinks this will be perceived differently.