Hi.. Sorry for long post ... I need to vent and need suggestions. Among all our relatives who call us in US (for stuff when news spreading us coming), is my annoying maternal/married elder cousin/family. They have craze for 'foren' electronics. Before, he H used to ask and now her son has grown up to call and ask. In the beginning, they ( sister/her husband) used to keep calling us whenever they got news of our coming from my parents. They would call each every day to ask this, this that that.. and say whatever you feel like good. I always avoided their calls. Slowly their calls reduced as I did not call back much or did not pick. But their demand of things is still there. My dad is in US to visit us, they send demands through my mom in India. My mom is in US for my delivery, they call mom here.. I am going, they will demand through mom. My mom feels pressure and obligated and she loads on to me. My mom does not force me but keeps asking, are you bringing their stuff?then she will start cribbing they should given me money first.. ( I say its not money, but I feel embarrassed to ask my H, They do pay for their gadgets. ) I hate their over smart kid who asks if stuff brought or not.Only thing he wants to know when we land is that his stuff arrived. If yes, they immediately come from far flung city at mid of night, to take their stuff. Well they ( my cousin sis ) have many other things annoying which pushes my buttons. In front of everyone, she tries to be over smart, keeps winking eyes to her H, kids etc in secretive language about money talks etc which I hate, Clear lies like I had bought blah blah GIFTs for you, but you did not come, I called in US many times, on H bday..you did not pick.. ( I know her ...she tried to teach me same tricks for others..like tell them you called) Also true, that now when my parents do not have lot of relatives, they are there to call in grief and joy to ask and visits. But yes she tries to be smart about everything, teach her kids not to talk about their career etc. But I feel embarrassed to ask my H to buy stuff for them because its each time and most demands have been from my side (even my parents but they all pay). Now she asking mom to ask us and I understand mother's tension. Once in while, I have no problem but every time. I have not brought anything for her in last few yrs. But in real, there was demand each yr (whoever went to India from US). For them, no harm in demanding. As soon as people know we are coming, we will start getting dmands for video camera, laptops phones. Some ( from H side) are so cheap to just send facebook etc messages. This time we are so frustrated with work and stressful life with baby and do not even want to travel but going for baby. I really do not know what excuses to make and how to deal with such relatives. How to tell them the fake money tree they think we have.