[URGENT] : Please suggest for my friend's life .. Very critical situation

Dear Friends,


First of all I thank you very much for reading this long thread patiently
I Need your suggestion for my friend’s pathetic situation. Am writing this here for my one of the best friend. Her life is going in pathetic condition…..I have seen so many elders and well wishers are being part of IL and giving hand holding the person when she/he is in trouble … I will come to the point now..

My friend name called Nisha (Name changed) is 28 Yrs old and yet to marry. She is from lower middle class family having 2 younger sisters and 1 younger brother. Her father got VRS from his Govt job and her mom is s house wife. She is responsible for the whole family. Becos for her earning only her family is running ….. When Nisha doing her Higher secondary her cousin brother’s friend (Name called Ramu) was proposed to her for love... she denied at that time (but inside she have an affair and not shown to him). Ramu is such a brilliant, calm and very nice person. Till now he doesn’t have any bad habits like smoking, drinking, etc.,
The days passed and she joined in engineering college... Ramu joined in Arts and Science College very near to Nisha’s college. There is no contact between them around 5 to 6 years. But each knows about both of them what they are doing by Nisha’s Cousin… He is a bridge for both of them and all three family are staying very near their parents become close. But Nisha and Ramu never express the love between them ... They have an affair silently b’cos they very care on their studies and responsibilities. Ramu thought of speaking to her family when time comes., that is after he will get a job.. In between this Ramu got an affair with his college classmate on his 2nd year itself . The girl also accepted for the same. But when it came for marriage time the girl’s parents denied so she got married with some other guy. So he got vexed then he joined his PG course and concentrated on his studies and got university rank…But Nisha doesn’t know about this at the beginning later she come to know from one of her friend and she felt a lot for that… Ramu

At that time one guy from her college (Named Sam) proposed love to her on her 1st year... She denied .. Sam is like a super hero in college and the person who is not bother about the studies.. since he is the only son and an elder sister……No talk about the love for 4 years till she completes her degree… After her final year one day sam called her on phone and invited for his sister’s marriage.... Now nisha and sam started talking on the phone….. They both came to Chennai for job searing and they got a job.. ..At the initial stage they both got job in small company with less pay. So they fixed a goal to get a good job. Later she fall in love with Sam… Both are such a nice pair and they are not like a normal lovers…..They set a goal on their love life ..Which is affected their life very much … Nisha and sam both planned to don’t get marry until they settle in the loans, and they were waiting for nisha’s siblings to complete their college… Nisha got a good job in a software company after some time she refered Sam and got him inside to her team … the whole office know about their love and golas…. Every one are supporting for their love since they both are perfect on their work…. Inside the office they never shown that they are lovers ….. Very decent guys …. Later 1 year Sam got an opportunity for onsite and gone to abroad…… Still they both have confident on both of them… They both had a misunderstanding ever in the past 7 years .. if its come either he will compromise or she will compromise…… Their fight will not been more than an hour… In office every one will get jealous on them for their maturity at this small age… Sam introduced Nisha to his family before he gone to abroad… They are very much satisfied on her….. And very eager to get marry to their son… But Nisha never forget about Ram. She told to Sam about her affair on Ram.. Fro that also he told that its not a love and its an infatuation this will come in everyone life .. He doesnt taken this as a matter…

Days were passed … … After 9 years one day night she got a call from unknown number saying Ramu calling from Chennai.. Nisha got shocked and she doesn’t have words to talk…he asked hi, how are u .. she replied that is it he disc the call…..Immediately Nisha told about this to Sam.. He said you know what to do and don’t.. so you take care… on the week end again she got a call from Ramu .. She didn’t picked the call.. she kept her mobile in silent mode and slept.. When she wake up in the mrng she saw more than 150 missed calls from Ramu… She tried to inform about the same to Sam but he was busy at Client meeting that time so he didn’t replied her properly….. Nish dont know what to do??? Again call from Ramu in the aft noon… she attended and asked y u made these many calls?? He replied that he wants to talk to her and then they started talking on their past moments.. Ramu Knows about Sam but still he didn’t ask her about that….. But Nisha used to tall everything to Sam she never hides anything to him… Sine sam knows about her well he also not worried about Ramu….

Suddenly one day Ramu’s parents went nishas house to talk about Ram and nisha’s marriage… But nisha’s parents were denied and vey big fought between them….. Nisha’s Parents used abused words on Ramu and his parents. That created very big problem in nishas life….But Nisha’s parents not ware of Sam’s love . They know Nisha is on love with somebody and they are very stubborn that they will not accept inter caste marriage, Since she is the elder in her family…

After this fought with Ramu’s parents Nisha started talking to him .. since he is very sensitive and he should not do anything wrong .. becos its his 2nd love in his life…. She will keep on updating everything to Sam whatever happens in her life… Now Sam started talk about his marriage to is parents.. Nisha also convenience her parents for marriage...Since its already late for her marriage……Initially everything is smooth , both parents started talking and they fix the date for engagement and marriage….. Before that Ramu’s parents went to Nisha’s home to talk about the other formalities that day they clearly demanded for “DOWRY”….For nisha’s parents its very difficult to give that much dowry bcos they have other 2 daughters…..Now the gap came bcos of DOWRY …. Sams parents are very strict to get the dowry and they not bother about their sons wish…. Both of them are struggled for their level best but the result is “0”… They both believe on god vey much so they badly need god’s help .. but I don’t know why he is not doing anything.. They both taken this also in +ve direction.. God knows what to give his child.. so if its really necessary he will help us…. Most of the friends suggested to do register marriage.. they both are not agreed for that bcos if their parents come to know this in future .. it will hurnt them a lot .. so they are not ready to do that…… at last they both decided to sacrifice their love for their family …..and they did….. But Nisha didn’t stopped talking to Ramu .. She told everything about sam to ramu… Now Ramu decided to start a new life with nisha .. Since he knows everything about her and he know she also loves him but she is not in the situation tell this in front of everyone….

Ramu send an email about this to sam.. Sam also thought its good for nisha .. bcos a person who really knows about her past and who really love her never leave her….Ramu is not a person who will dig about the past…. She loves nisha .. And he believes his love is true… he believes bcos of the reason after these many struggles she is coming back to him….

Now friends pl suggest nisha can go ahead with Ramu????

 

46 Views not even a single reply??? Please dont think its a very long thread ...Friends its a girl's life expecting your advices and suggestions....

 

Thank you for your first suggestion bhadrapriya. what you are saying is correct we friends also gave the same suggestion. But both sam and nisha are not interested to marry without their parents permission though its very difficult to compromise everyone.

 

Yup ofcourse...But Ram's parents are ready to talk to nisha's partens again.. they are not bother about the fight.. They just want to fulfil their son's wish.. Even Ram is ready to talk to Nisha's parents.

 

Both Nisha and Sam were talked about this to their parents several times and tried to compramise.. Sam's parents are not even come down a single step down.Bcos in their community they used to get like that more over they are asking the very less..(approx 50 Sovereigns) from Niha's family. And at the time of meeting both parents Sam's parents were only talked about the money and dowry. The sad part is Ram used to give the whole money to his parents he didn't save anything for his future.