Well about sleeping together, i mentioned that many times in the past and he himself has no interest in this. Our rooms are too small to join 2 beds together. But with 1 bed and crib, it is workable but since it is 4 of us and noone habit to sleep in crib, it is going to be squishy. Then, my kids have bad sleeping habits. Both of them, like on sleep on us using as pillow :-( Sleeping all together means no one gets sleep. So when 2nd kids was born, he started early morning workouts after pumped by a friend. I was so sleep lacked anyways with swollen eyes but he never noticed or looked at me. He never even held my son forget about taking care of him or me. Then my older one made it much harder. Anyways he will go for workout and she will suddenly wake up and scream like hell( seriously loud). Then she would never listen and he will never come upstairs to soothe her that he has to workout and she has to learn, so i ll lie next to her, inspite of her rejection/kicking that she wanted only her dad. Now better is - most of times that she does not wake up, or if she does, she starts watching TV or screams, cries and come to me and then i ask her to sleep with me or sometimes will go to him. Well these grievances will go with me and these wounds are never going to be healed. All I want is to be stronger and not to expect from him.