I feel over time, my H is really selfish mean man when it comes to his own family means us but to the world he pretends to be the best man. To his parents, he pretends to be very understanding and generous husband but when comes to me, he is like i do not have money to spend on you while both of us earn. 1. In pandemic, his job is important. 2. His health is important so he works out each day 5 am. It disturbs our sleep, kids wake up then again i have to take care of them. Then H after workout each day doing those hard workouts, get tired and cranky and screams. 3. He always from morning to night, headsets stuck in his ears..really. Always. What are going to expect from kids when they grow up. On dining table, on bathroom everywhere. 4. He does not want to do anything that involves kids or us. He will cook or clean but alone while watching something but not play with kids at all. While struggle to do kids chores ( cooking for them) and other regular chores and hearing their cries. Maximum he does when i scream, is put them in front of TV. My 1 1/2 yr has become addicted to TV because of him. 5. If world end comes, I know he will run away from me. He is weaker. 6. Anyone else - our nanny or our neighbour or his SILs or our friends are all perfect women and good. Whatever i say is wrong. And he is ready to put up big fight for it. 7. He can really turn back like 180 in no seconds. Not talking about small things. For ex - now it is very hard to take care of kids and family and treating friends. If I say lets eat or caryy out when inviting friends. No.. its not healthy. When others say, it is perfect idea. So friends/family with kids come for full day. Lunch + dinner + snack. I asked should we use disposables. Since we have our 2 kids + infant to handle + guests...too much. Atleast for lunch even 5-6 plates for rinse and put in dishwasher will be too much. Then snack + etc plates. then dinner. Yes Yes. I confirmed 5 times a day before as I have to take it out and put in dinning room. Next morning, before they come, do we have even disposables? I asked. Why? we should us real plates. We have so many sets? Are they going in our grave? They(friends) always use real plates...uffff.. Now I told him - I clearly remember they never use real plates. Even for kids they do not. (We normally to kids use real plates for ease of use). No.....we have sets buried. I said it not about that to save sets but to clean up. 8.Doing unneccesary things. He hurts me each and every day with small small things so much. I feel like i can not rely on this person for my life. We had our 2nd kid very late in our life when technology had taken over so nothing he or we do to pay attention to him. while sleeping him or feeding him this tc/technology has taken over us. Specially, he expects him to not to make mess, or eat peacefully all by itself or sleep easily without singing so he can listen to his headsets. what kind of man he has become 9. In india, he nephew and BIL are same. When he goes there, he does not appreciateae his nephew always on phone or even BIL and praises his SIL always working one thing or another. Same thing is your family. Atleast SIL naps. I am always like working horse around the house. I just want to adapt myself to not to needing his attention or love or be bothered by his acts. But my daughter has starting sensing my hatred towards him or our problems and she hates me and acts same like his dad. And tells me 'no' for everything.