Unhappy in married life in spite of horoscope matchings

The Secret to a Lasting Marriage: Embrace Imperfection By- Deb Graham

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember Watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got Up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad For burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: 'Baby, I love burned toast.'

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, 'Debbie, your momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!'

In bed that night, I thought about that scene at dinner...and the kindness my daddy showed my mom. To this day, it's a cherished memory from my childhood that I'll never forget. And it's one that came to mind just recently when Jack and I sat down to eat dinner.

I had arrived home late...as usual...and decided we would have breakfast food for dinner. Some things never change, I suppose!

To my amazement, I found the ingredients I needed, and quickly began

To cook eggs, turkey sausage, and buttered toast. Thinking I had things Under control, I glanced through the mail for the day. It was only a few Minutes later that I remembered that I had forgotten to take the toast out of The oven!

Now, had it been any other day -- and had we had more than two pieces Of bread in the entire house -- I would have started all over. But it had been one of those days and I had just used up the last two pieces of bread.
So burnt toast it was!

As I set the plate down in front of Jack, I waited for a comment about the toast. But all I got was a 'Thank you!' I watched as he ate bite by bite, all the time waiting for some comment about the toast. But instead, all Jack said was, 'Babe, this is great. Thanks for cooking tonight. I know you had a hard day.'

As I took a bite of my charred toast that night, I thought about my Mom and dad...how burnt toast hadn't been a deal-breaker for them. And I quietly thanked God for giving me a marriage where burnt toast wasn't a
deal-breaker either!

You know, life is full of imperfect things...and imperfect people. I'm not the best housekeeper or cook. And you might be surprised to find out that Jack isn't the perfect husband! He likes to play his music too loud. He will always find a way to avoid yard work, and he watches far too many sports. Believe it or not, watching ' Golf Academy ' is not my idea of a great night at home!

But somehow in the past 37 years Jack and I have learned to accept the imperfections in each other. Over time, we have stopped trying to make each other in our own mold and have learned to celebrate our differences.

You might say that we've learned to love each other for who we really are!

For example, I like to take my time, I'm a perfectionist, and I'm even-tempered. I tend to work too much and sleep too little. Jack, on the other hand, is disciplined, studious, an early riser, and is a marketer's dream consumer. I count pennies and Jack could care less! Where he is strong, I am weak, and vice versa.

And while you might say that Jack and I are opposites, we're also very much alike. I can look at him and tell you what he's thinking. I can predict these actions before he finalizes his plans. On the other hand, he knows whether I'm troubled or not the moment I enter a room.

We share the same goals. We love the same things. And we are still best friends. We've traveled through many valleys and enjoyed m many mountain tops. And yet, at the same time, Jack and I must work every minute of every day to make this thing called 'marriage' work!

What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting marriage relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your married life and lay them at the feet of GOD. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a marriage where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker!

 

A very good one, Vijaya !! I loved the sentence - celebrating the difference !! Thank You for sharing with us !

 

nice one Vijaya... thanks for sharing.

 

Hi vanyaliked ur views abt horoscope matching. I want to know more abt cuspal interlink.

 

i second vanya on this..!
the one I married,the proposal came 3 years before getting married and again after 3 years got married to the same,we both belong to same rashi and have double dhamaka of all evil period bcause we share same rashi and when went to astrologer he told us even if u don't get married for 10 years and decided to marry,then you also you will be marrying same person since he is meant for you..this is destiny and we can nevr ever change it..yet I believe astrology is a must and matching horoscopes to be done prior to wedding atleast to make a fair choice..

 

My parents married me to my ex by showing match making to many astrologers. All of them told that it is the best horoscope matching and should proceed with out waiting.. Finally i got divorced.. Now i dont hav belief in astrology but i believe my instincts.
My cousin and her hubbys horoscope did not match.astrologer warned against marriage. both went ahead against to parents wish and got married ..they are extremely happy married couple with a kid.
I would still wish to show both our horoscopes to some one so that i can find out y astrologers were wrong..

 

Dear sandya ram and sita had only 6 matchings.. So they couldn't join till d last Moment.. Aandal and vishnu had 7 they were always fighting and he married some other also.. I think mahalaskmi

 

Matchings are always true untill the astrologers don't cheat.. Nowadays people consult 2 or three astrologers since some are cheating

 

In my opinion, it is a matter of whether you have believe in it. My in-laws from my understanding believe a lot in these astrology stuff and got their older son married to a lady based on horoscope matching and they supposedly have 10 porutham., but that marriage ended in separation.... So for their younger son ( my hubby) and me - as ours is a love marriage, they did not bother to check or do any matching. Thank god for that - we are happily married and just celebrated our tenth anniversary! A friend of mine had loved someone, and due to incompatible horoscope her parents refused to get her married to him!

 

Marriages are made in heaven.. not by horoscopes or match-makers..