Uncomfortable

Hi @shravs3 it's only been a day with them. So feeling a little uncomfortable is totally justifiable. Whether they are sharing a room or not , with new flatmates it's common to feel what you are feeling.

No. . You did a good thing by initiating a friendship with them.
Some good suggestions are already suggested above.
One what I want to add is in the coming days there are two cases
1) You will get used to it and it won't be uncomfortable for you.
2) If you are still uncomfortable you can shift to an other room. Observe for a few days . A week or so and see how it goes.

 

Though it's your opinion and I didn't want to comment on that I couldn't stop myself from asking you
"what is free entertainment here ?"

 

Some ones uncomfortable situation is free entertainment for another

 

Hi @shravs3 I may understand what you are going through. I lived with many different roommates for many years through university and work - and may see what you are going through. This used to happen often - even though we begin with no expectations from roommates - we would like a "casual friend" - just when we rush from room to kitchen to bathroom or making a late night tea - we'd like some minimal smalltalk. Not too much to become intrusive about our lives - but just enough to have a pleasant time. Conversation like - how was work today, I remember the light up late last night in your room? Or hey yoghurt is getting over, I can get a extra tub on my way back for you also?

But what happened again and again was this - when one roommate gets a bf - they would emotionally check-out from the other and this would make the other one feel left out. They don't want to stand and have tea together for even a couple of minutes and would rather spend time in their own rooms. This would strain the roommate arrangement. Sharing of chores would become tricky - because this person is now head-on-heals invested in their new relationship and bound to forget something. The other roommate does extra clean up for some spilled sugar or take the trash out more often - causing things to go downhill. So then after some tough finger-pointing, both roommates stay within their rooms, try to avoid sharing the common spaces at the same time.

Just want to share - living together with another "couple" is even harder. If you're prepared to just give them their space - let them be. They may be forced to "hide" their relationship from their friends/family/colleagues already - and hence may have hidden from you too (it wasn't right of them to do that - they could've shared it with you in confidence).

Have no solution for you - just wanted to share some of my "uncomfortable" stories with you. Hope you can strike a good balance and make it work or find a convenient alternative.

 

OMG! IT IS CATCH 22. exercise caution and care my dear daughter. I can't rather I don't qualify to make statements to comfort you as these are i consider unchartered areas for me.
God shall protect and preserve all His Daughters in all geographies.

 

Charter the areas. It is never too late. Do you have a room to rent ?
Hahaha... "Daughters in Geographies" could be a good name for a band.

Daughters are safer in geographies where some other daughters are tiring the bejeezus out of hot-blooded males who might otherwise be looking to harass girls in buses, and street corners, and street-lampless dark streets.

All eeess vell, when some daughters are romancing the wayward sons, and other daughters are sighing through the work-week, waiting for the weekend canoodle [Question from auntiji: how many minutes should one boil a canoodle to make it al dente ?]