I would like to take unbiased views on this. My MIL wanted to prepare bhardi ( rice and moong dal- soak in water and then have it dried and grind it and then add it to boiling water and give to my 8 months old son.) Actually she decided herself and did not let me know abt it too. Luckily I came to know through a conversation and was disturbed a lot for this. Being a mother, I expected I know what is being planned to be given to my son. When I came to know this, I mentioned to my MIL, I would like to give freshly prepared rice and moong dal ( khicadi and grind in mixer. In this we can add carrots and tomato etc too). And I will discuss with doctor as well.ILs and DH have discussed abt giving soupd and bhardi and I was not even aware . MIL purposely is not mentioning to me anything. She will tell everything to DH and wants to take control on what to feed my DS.I am working mom and hence cant be 24 hr with DS This created a huge issue with my DH. DH felt I am not letting ILs give anything to my son.I just informed him , I need to know abt this being my DS mother. Was I wrong in demanding that? Now DH has decided my inlaws will not give anything on their wish and I will tell them what needs to be given. He even brought my parents in between and called me basta*** and bit**.I was very upset with all this. He argued that my son got diarrhea bcos of my parents on 2nd month. I really was in tears hearing this. I have never ever questioned his parents abt taking care. I even do not inquire abt what he did entire day thinking they are responsible enough to take care. Still he accused me of treating them as maid servant. My mom had once mentioned of just giving him taste of ice-cream or cake when we were having. To this he kepot reacting how my mom can say this and she does not how to take care of kids . She has grown me and my brother and I could not hear abt this. More I am upset at he accusing my parents of not taking care of me and DS .And now for my DS he wants my MIL and FIL do not give something on their own. Now he is not talking anything and yesterday they did not give him any fruit. I went in evening and gave him fruit and then (thick water of rice and moong dal). I am really disturbed abt all this. What should I do in this case? Was I wrong in mentioning I need to know abt what we plan to give? Are my DH and ILs wrong ?