I am looking for other people’s perspective of this situation . A little bit background about my husband’s and my nature . My husband is a nice guy who helps me with the kid , a responsible man and a good partner but even after 9 yrs of marriage I don’t know his inner feelings .Even during a fight he keeps his calm and doesn’t say anything but one fine day like a volcano he says things which will hurt me . I do think his nature is a blessing in disguise because I am short tempered and lose my cool easily but I forget things easily and is back to normal but he keeps everything to himself . But at times I feel I don’t know anything about the person I married and I am still clueless of his feelings .Off late I feel he is unappreciative and he is taking me for granted . Here is something that happened today and I want to know what others think about this From the time we got married I took care of everything at home be it cooking , grocery shopping , laundry .He helps me with loading dishwasher and trash . Even when we go for vacation I take care of all his clothes , packing and laundry etc . Even during my pregnancy and after delivery though I was having some issues yet I did everything at home . My mom was there to help me with baby and cooking but after she left I took care of the baby in the night ,went to work in the morning and in the evening after work used to cook for everyday or every other day .Weekends are dedicated to laundry and other stuffs . In all this somewhere I got a bit lazy and had stopped folding clothes regularly but I did iron his shirts when ever I can . A few months back in a gathering he said infront of his cousin and his wife that I am not good at organizing clothes and he had put me down infront of his family before as well .Something pissed me off and I stopped doing his laundry .He does laundry now once a month and doesn’t fold his clothes either .If he runs out of washed clothes he uses unwashed clothes even his inner wears or keeps buying new ones . today he was doing laundry and some discussion led to another and he said doing laundry is no big deal but folding clothes is the difficult work .In a way he wanted me to know I should stop expecting any appreciation for doing His laundry for 9 yrs because I did bring this topic up couple of times in our conversation before on whether he knows my worth now . It hurt me and I lost my cool . Though I am not happy with the way I reacted somewhere I feel he doesn’t appreciate the little things I did for him .This reminded me of one and only fight with my MIL who called me lazy and a careless mother though I did all I could for my child .I lost respect for my MIL then and I am afraid I will lose for my husband too . We both are flawed but is too much to except that he doesn’t talk about these things in front of his relatives . I do agree I am not perfect and sometime the house is messy due to active toddler but I do my best to keep my home clean .i feel my biggest mistake is the way I react and for being sensitive.He asked me why I am so insecure and somewhere I feel he is right.After having a kid I do look for appreciation from others and is very conscious of what other think about me .Though I know I should stop giving importance to other opinions I am unable to do it completely. On other hand I feel he is very secure person( or I would like to believe so because I know nothing about his feelings ) and doesn’t get effected even if I am badmouth him infront of others .