Tribute to a woman whose world is her little family

I would seem to put to this group something that is too personal and
not relevant to the group at all. If you feel so, please ignore this.
Our marriage would completes 22 years. I do not propose to use this
forum to send a message to my wife because she will never see this,
and she is not interested in groups or in computer either. I just
thought how a typical Iyer woman spends her life even today. It was
no romantic or idyllic match for us, but a match more dependent on
idlis and dosas. But she was absolutely faithful in spite of the
eccentric fellow that I was, with ungodly duty hours. If I am to
leave duty on a day at 3A.M. She would wake up at 2A.M and cook a
small meal for me, and when I return home 24 or 48 hours later again
at a time when only ghosts will walk along the road, she will be
waiting for me. I am not an attractive or charismatic man, and by
any standards an under-performer.( I often wonder she would have
abandoned me had she not been a typical Brahmin Mami ). She is in
fact more educated than me and she earns sufficiently for herself
through her job. We have a boy of 18 years who is as bad a devil as
myself demanding too much from his mother. Silently and happily she
does everything.
What I wrote above are personal. But I feel her attitude in life
has been shaped like this because she grew up in a Brahmin family in
a typical agraharam where human relations count a lot and reading
Dale Carnegie or Stephen Covey is not necessary to learn the basics
of life, but the advise of an old grandmother or great grandmother is
taken as the gospel truth.

I write this as a tribute to every Brahmin woman who builds up her
exclusive world around her little family and can make it a heaven or
hell (God forbid!) by her actions. Sure, Brahmin life is very
different from others even in this modern times. Whatever we learned
for thousands of years cannot be unlearned in a few years of
ultramodern life. We men will brag and debate on various issues but
the rocklike platform is provided by our own faithful (if I may be
permitted to say, faithful to a fault) females. Thanks.

 

Sir/Madam, Regarding my post I would like to make one thing clear I had written it in the social context of Brahmins of South India, sorry if that fact lost its mention in the process. I respect every mother, sister and daughter in this world and religion or region is not a yardstick at all. I am sure the majority of wives in India are like what I wrote about a Brahmin lady, but I wrote about a brahmin lady only because I have watched her at close quarters for too long in my life. My mother, aunts, my sisters, my nieces all are brahmin ladies(unfortunately I do not have a daughter) so my views veers towards them.. I request to convey to the forum that this is my tribute to womanhood all over, on the pooja day where we worship Her. KVA