Travails Of A Would-be Father

Discussion in 'Pregnancy & Labor' started by Greenbay, Jun 1, 2018.

  1. dc24

    dc24 Gold IL'ite

    Messages:
    589
    Likes Received:
    574
    Trophy Points:
    188
    Gender:
    Female
    Hats off to your dear mother. Such a moving account.
     
    Greenbay likes this.
  2. messedup

    messedup Platinum IL'ite

    Messages:
    899
    Likes Received:
    1,533
    Trophy Points:
    263
    Gender:
    Female
    Congratulations and many blessings to you and your wife. Your mother must be very happy with the news wherever she is.
     
    Greenbay likes this.
  3. Greenbay

    Greenbay Gold IL'ite

    Messages:
    389
    Likes Received:
    894
    Trophy Points:
    173
    Gender:
    Male
    When kids grow up without father, do they lack some personality traits that would have shaped them differently especially during their formative years? I would think so. Male perspective is needed to balance things out.

    Men tend to seek justice purely from the principles of justice while women tend to go by whom they know, how long they know.

    https://digitalcommons.brockport.ed...om/&httpsredir=1&article=1034&context=phil_ex

    How does this fit here in my travails? I have been fervently hoping that my children will have both father and mother growing up and evolve as mature individuals with right mind set.

    Yes, you heard it right. Doctor says we will have double-trouble aka twins. This is pleasantly surprising because wife conceived naturally this time without any help of fertility treatments. In our previous attempts (natural or medically assisted), she never had more than one but this time it is two. Bhagwan deta hai toh chappad phad ke deta hai ( when it rains, it pours)
     
  4. Sunshine04

    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

    Messages:
    2,117
    Likes Received:
    2,684
    Trophy Points:
    283
    Gender:
    Female
    congrats @Greenbay . you will be a great:cheer: father
     
    Greenbay likes this.
  5. poovai

    poovai Platinum IL'ite

    Messages:
    1,448
    Likes Received:
    2,096
    Trophy Points:
    283
    Gender:
    Female
    Congrats @Greenbay, 2018 will be a very special fathers day.
     
    Last edited: Jun 1, 2018
    Greenbay likes this.
  6. GeetaKashyap

    GeetaKashyap IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    3,921
    Likes Received:
    9,215
    Trophy Points:
    460
    Gender:
    Female
    Congrats to both of you.

    Thanks for sharing your mother's inspirational story of grit and determination.
     
    Thyagarajan and Greenbay like this.
  7. shravs3

    shravs3 IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    3,170
    Likes Received:
    5,789
    Trophy Points:
    425
    Gender:
    Female
    Congrats to both ! When I read the story I just thought you have just written some story. But shocked after reading today’s post .
     
    Last edited: Jun 1, 2018
    Thyagarajan and Greenbay like this.
  8. goldenhoney87

    goldenhoney87 Silver IL'ite

    Messages:
    177
    Likes Received:
    243
    Trophy Points:
    95
    Gender:
    Female
    Your mother is a true inspiration to stay unshaken come what may.As kids understanding the whole scenario and giving importance to the academics is great act too.
    BTW congratulations for the double dhamaka.
     
    Thyagarajan and Greenbay like this.
  9. DDream

    DDream Finest Post Winner

    Messages:
    1,768
    Likes Received:
    3,718
    Trophy Points:
    285
    Gender:
    Female
    TWINS !!! Double congratulations to you and your wife.

    So...Double couple time, more help (cooking, cleaning etc..), more emotional bonding, pampering, love and what not from your side- the would be father:grinning:. It is a lot of work for your wife which I doubt you will understand it fully, but please try. May both of you have a great pregnancy period. Its beautiful period. Enjoy it well. Bond well and try to understand each other well. Don't miss the ultrasound days ( I still remember it, very exciting). Best wishes

    Thanks for sharing your mothers story- very inspirational. She showed how a woman can manage everything alone and lead a respectful life by doing handwork and by having a strong determination to succeed.
     
    Last edited: Jun 1, 2018
  10. Greenbay

    Greenbay Gold IL'ite

    Messages:
    389
    Likes Received:
    894
    Trophy Points:
    173
    Gender:
    Male
    Thanks ! Maharani (queen) is resting well. Cooking/Cleaning/Dish washing/Laundry etc is all on my shoulders from last 12 weeks once the news was confirmed. I work from home on Wednesdays and Fridays, so I insist her to drop and pick her from her work those 2 days (I will make it all 5 days once she completes second trimester). Due to her delicate condition,I tell her to not accompany me in grocery shopping these days. We take leisurely walk every evening after dinner before it is dark. She meditates in the morning before breakfast and as I mentioned earlier, she has become very religious, so she spends few mins on her prayer every morning and evening.

    But one thing I am not good is in preparing dishes to cater her every craving and to her satisfaction :)

    I could welcome her mother (my MIL) to come now and be with wife and help in preparing items my wife likes and match the taste she is expecting. But my wife doesn't want to disclose to her family till she completes second trimester. Her fear is based on our earlier mishaps.
     
    Thyagarajan and rachaputi like this.

Share This Page