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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by pinky18, Jun 1, 2015.

  1. pinky18

    pinky18 Senior IL'ite

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    One more thing to mention, I do understand everyone is NOT SAME or come with same POTENTIAL.. some are better in something than others. I dont want him to be millionaire, but when I see him SITTING home playing video games , or watching TV WHILE DAY without even looking at job postings. House is CLUTTERED when you come back from work because of something he WANTED DOG but lazy to vaccum dog hair , baby taken care but toys all over , food is cooked but KITCHEN is super messy , couple of calls to ask you on your way home, when you COMING back ??? We are waiting??
    And now you enter in the house like a teacher , and politely ask him , darling I would really appreciate if you just cleaned the floor so I get sometime to spend with you. Reply: was WAITING for you to come home.

    It's hard than I can describe here.
     
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    sorry I didn’t know husband does all these chores at home.
     
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    You alright sweetheart.. I do appreciate your response to my problem..
     
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    lavani Platinum IL'ite

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    Nope. this is the main detail, i feel is needed.

    see when there is a fire, people ask how it happened. now i feel it is same when you say, a fight is happening. why is important.

    this is a very valid reason.

    he cannot sit at home and just enjoy. he needs to accept if he is at home, he needs to maintain home, clean . if he has a dog. bath the dog, clean the hair.

    yes , this is not tolerable and on a long run and can cause depression to the provider ( which is YOU now). he needs to get his Act together or face ultimatum.
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    @lavani great response . I wanted to write the same . What is there in being a bread winner and husband taking a back seat ? I think your mentality is wrong in my opinion . You need to change your attitude towards life . Working till 39 weeks is so normal in USA . Unless there is medical need there is no need to not work . I think you are not understanding the support your husband is providing you . Sorry you don’t appreciate his support .
     
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    pinky18 Senior IL'ite

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    I do appreciate his support , read my post 31.. you will understand more..

    Thanks for reply and anticipation. I need solutions of my problem.
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    how old is the baby ?
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    What made you fall in love ?
     
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    pinky18 Senior IL'ite

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    Baby is 3 year old , I been knowing him for 1 year before marriage.
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    Why not send the kid to preschool ?
     

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