torture by husband on h4 visa

Hello, all lovely ladies here,

I need your advice, where I am broken emotionaly. I been married for 4 years and living in u.s.a. we had love marrige but my parents accepted because of love for me. His parents was ready since begining. I came u.s.a on h1b visa and he joined me for h4 visa.

Main problem in our relationship is that... he is too much stuburn person, he thinks he is mr.perfect.. shouts so loudly if anything get out of his control,...throw things and damage them and abuse me physically too. I am broken... I tried to maintain this relationship by focusing only positive things till now. His family think that he is so much innocent person and just high temper..


I don't know what to do.. he is reckless and don't want any responsibility. He got dog in my home against my wish, I tried to adjust and bear all trouble for longtime... took and tried for positivity... bUT now I am tired.. mentally, physically and financialy..

Please suggest me what I can do to give me good lesson As he took my innocent love for granted foe so long...

Thanks all.

 

Thank you all..

Short story REGARDING what's going on in 2020.
it's been years and years .. I got to the point I had didi police COMPLAIN in 2015, he had cried , begged to me that , "and told me to give him a once chance to prove that he loves me ...
It's been years , no PHYSICAL abuse anymore... ... because I Will not take that .. that was my firm decision..
He got his EAD, started to work, with God's grace we got beautiful DAUGHTER. My HUSBAND BEEN wonderful, been supportive to raise our daughter.

Positive of him: love to cook, cook everything the time I come from work except roti, ( he dont know how to roll, but try and make in any shape if I am running late) , helps me to clean the house, laundry, wash dishes , anything ..when he takes care of our DAUGHTER, he change poo or pee ANY diaper, feed her, now she is toddler , so he make her different dishes way she likes, he loves family time....do all handy work in house, cut the grass or fix refrigerator or any thing you ask for .. he loves it
Our finance : i do has my separate account from beginning, in which I get direct deposit. He never ever asked me how much money I do have or where I spent.. his salary comes in our joint account. I am the one who manage all spending, pays all Bills.. he says he dont know I to organize money , trust me more and feel I am much smarter than him

NEGATIVE: he still got anger issue , sometime he loose his temper but try his best to control in front of me.. he is the always 1st to say sorry...
Lazy.. helps me with anything I ask, but do on his time , very much disorganized and irresponsible for future plan.
Big issue we have , he never does STABLE job, 6 month maxim SOME AND some PROBLEM with he working , he blames either people or company and quite. He had projects where HE SUPPOSE to live away from family , he rush back to us when he get minute off... less dedication to work, I feel...
When he get anything new in his life job or anything, he is hyper in beingining and later HE LOOSE spark.
He is super insecure, if my parents VISIT me, he feels so much jealous the way I spend time with them.. I feels the way he behave.
Big problem I facing now .. he been laid off from work almost 7 months, he is IT sector , keep telling me he is not able to find any project , dont trust consultants as they suck money and dont ENOUGH, so direct job, when I push him to find job asap, he keep saying he can't, some of time he lost his temper and told me to find for him if I can..he told me we are in not bad shape .. that means he dont feel like he need to work.. I feel like he loves to BE STAY home dad.. he watch TV all time, cook , helps with baby as much and when he can ..

But I can not keep him like this all my life.. sitting home .. please advice me what to do.

One more things regarding my old post.. i felt all problems happened because i allowed them to happened , i was people pleaser, no love for my self.. now I comes 1st.. I eat healthy , much more sexy and slim than I was before even I had baby now. Gym , more positive , cut off negative people, no more people pleasing , i come 1st with my need, clear boundaries, no round round answers , I am much CLEAR what I want... I have more patience , no answer back if someone's opinion dont change my goal and direction.

Ok, this sweet and sour PERSON who is my DH, he is house husband for now. I have baby with him now. He is good father but worst PROVIDER, more my in laws are very much influencing, but seems he dont care much for their opinion ..

I feel like , I can not afford someone to sit and watch me working while life , I pay his car, my car .. house all... he loves luxury but hate to work..