Hi ladies! I am writing to you after a long time.To those who dont know about me just to brief you.I live with Mil,my husband and child.She is overpossessive and my husband is a mommas boy.fil died when my husb was 20.She has never given any space or privacy in our relationship of 15 years.Husband also dances to her tunes. every where she we she will always join us.I some how learnt to deal with the situation and focus on myself and child.She has always played cold war with me from day one and the only job she has is to create rifts between me and husband.Somehow with time things got better but as soon as i leave him with mil for say 15 days,if i go to my parents place then he is poisoned completely by her and changes again... She is not in talking terms with any of her relatives (sis,bro ,other relatives because of the lady she is-always finds faults in others and is sarcastic to them)She hardly talks to me and so even i do the same though living under the same roof.Frankly speaking i dont have any emotiion for her now except bitterness because of whatever she has done till date. Now my brother lives abroad and has been calling us to visit us since many years but i havent visited him. Husbands sister also lives abroad in a different country and she has been insisting her mom to come over but she doesnt go because she has to do work there and here she doesnt do anything except watching tv. (She is quite hail and hearty,goes everywhere with us and goes for her kitties) Now i just told my husband that we will go to my brothers place ths summer.His first question was -who all will go?I simply told him that me ,you and my kid would go then he started asking about his mom.I said that she doesnt talk to me at all and you want that she should go with us for a month to my brothers house. From day 1 she wants to be invited to my mayka which is in a different city as ours and wants to stay there..Now i have stopped asking her just book my tickets and go.(A lady wants some peaceful days and wants to spend time with her parents so she goes there ,there also who takes her mil?)If she was good to me then it would have been a different issue but she is the typical mil. Husband started shouting that you just dont want to include her anywhere and just want to dictate the house..says i give tit for tat..To which i say yes i am not a doormat that she keeps beng sarcastic to me and i keep pleasing her,,i am middle aged now..dont have time for drama...if she is not good to me why should i keep pleasing her.I give it back to her. The main question is which mil goes to her dils brothers house for a long time ..I told my husband that she can go to his sis and we can go there... He said that she also wants to enjoy and visit my brothers country since we are going on a holiday..I was like she cant stand my parents and me,there also she will keep creating issues(my parents would also go with me so that we have a family get together)I havent met my bros family since 5 years ... i dont understand why my husb doesnt understand this logic... For formality sake obviously my bro asked my mil to come over ...to which she always happily aggrees...else elders mostly say that "no beta these kids can go what will i do)" To this going on i asked him whether you will take my mom to your sisters house to stay for a month?just to make him realise...he says no unka banta nahi hai because they dont stay with us..Mil stays with us so she should go with us. Please suggest...my head is going bonkers...what is the point of a holiday if there aso your mil accompanies you...every weekend she goes with us..is that not enough ..that she will join me everywhere.. i am sick and tired of this lady and my husbands attitude.. he knws i am struggling with high bp since many days and he still creayed this issue yesterday...I am in my 40s and want some peace of mind at this age..The thing is that he never speaks or discusses any probllem with any of his friends ..only discusses with his mom and his mom is a narcisst.What to do in such a situation.?