Toddler not gained weight in the last 8- 10 mos...

Hi Minerva,

I really dont know whether i could write this but i feel i need to share my experience here...

I was in the same state as yours...i recently weaned off my 22 months DD...that was after consulting 4 pediatricians and general doctors and a gynacologist too....basically i really wanted to keep feeding my LO as my suppply was good...eventhough her appetite was good,she refused to eat when i was around and ate minimal when i was not there...her weight was fine and doctors too said that its completely normal...this just went on but seriously i was too worried...but i understood that she had good appetite but dint want to eat or drink anything when i was there(she would satisfy her hunger with the BM)...i have tried so many ways to make her eat and drink milk....i tried keeping her away from me but dint work...tried for a week but then when she came back,she was back to square one...again on hunger strike...but then when this continued for a long time,pediatricians asked me stop BF her...yes...i really dint want to...but she would not take any other milk and would stay hungry....but then i took a firm decision and stopped BF her...i sent her to my mom's place for 2 weeks and she started eating better,drank milk....when she came back ,she asked for milk but then i applied the medicien prescribed by a pediatrician and then she never came near...now too she makes fuss when i am around but atleast am happy that she is eating better

see here i am not telling you to stop BF but it did work in my case,hence i am sharing my experience...when i read your post,it was just like mine...i had posts many threads in IL asking for help(you can check the baby section)...since i feel your post is similar to mine,i am posting my experience here...i know there would be some ladies would are going to shout and pounce on me for saying this but this is the truth that happened to me...pediatricians said that "few kids are like this and they would start eating if they are away from their mother or if you stop BF...you have given your DD feeds till sufficient age and more than 18 months is more than sufficient and you can stop"...believe me,i really consulted 3-4 pediatricians,1 gynacologist and 1 general doctor to come to a conclusion...

are you working?...
do you give more feeds as he is not drinking other milk..then you need to reduce the number of feeds as kids need extra nutrition after they cross 1 year of age...you can leave for few more months but then the kid needs extra nutrition...if he drinks your milk and along with that also takes other forms of calcium,then there is no prob in continuing feeds...but then in my case,it was not such a case...hence i had to stop
try out the tips given by our fellow ILites to make your kid eat...take help from the kids section
consult few more pediatricians for more suggestions..
does he eat if he is away from you...keep yourself away from his sight and ask someone to feed him(if you have not tried this)...

All the best!!!!!!

 

i totally agree with swaran.. BF is NOT NECESSARY after 1 yr. and definitely not more than 18 months.

even my DD's paed said to stop BF - because as the child grows, the BF alone is not enough - they need additional food like what we eat. infact my pead said to start normal food to DD as soon as she was 10 months old. and by 1 DD should be eating whatever we eat. thats the healthy way to grow.

please dont think that BF and bonding is releated. By my personal experience, im saying, it doesnt matter. the child will NO MATTER be close to the mom the most. unless mom is out of sight!

bottomline - to make your son eat better, stop the BF. its not necessary. start with normal food and milk. it will be a fight initially, but slowly you can see the results.

its all a matter of parents to be determined. the children dont trouble. we parents have weak hearts and give in easily. especially when the child is not co-operating. so be firm and go for it.

all the best!