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Toddler Don't Want To Go To School

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous in Parenting' started by Janakinarne, Nov 8, 2023.

  1. Janakinarne

    Janakinarne Gold IL'ite

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    Hi momies gud evening everyone,plz take time to read and suggest me
    My girl was 4yrs (entering into 5th yr in a week) and now she was in lkg ,she didn't went to any preschool before and direct to school,she was happily went to school for first 2 months and later she was sick even at that time she wants to go to school,she caught cold and cough during the time she vomited while having lunch in school and some how the care taker talked with her rudely and my girl was afraid of the situation and from the time she doesn't want to go to school..
    I talked with her class teacher and teacher was taking care of her while having lunch,even though my girl don't want to go to school,it's happened 2 months before still she was rejecting to go to school and every day was like a war to me to send her to school,
    Without lunch she was happily going to school,she don't want to eat lunch(normally she was a fussy eater and try to skip meals as possible as she can),
    Even after ensuring her no one force u to eat or no one wil scold u if u vomit als she don't want to go,
    She was happily play in the school and there is no other issues with class teacher or classmates,i myself sits with her fends for 10mins everyday while picking her from school,they are happily mingle with others and teacher wil b in d class still a last child was picked by there parents..
    When I asked my child wats the reason for don't want to go to school she was saying no one was playing with her in the class(means during class hrs)and I told her because teacher wil give u punishment if u play it's a class time u should listen to ur teacher..but she don't want to listen..
    And her father was supporting her saying if u don't want to go to school it's k don't go which helped her to bunk school just by cries,so everyday she starts to cry her lungs out and bunk the school,if her father not at home she wil go because I tel her you should go to school everyday,
    Once when I left from school she plays and enjoy the class and happily waits for me to pick her up,
    I told my husband not to interfere if you can't handle the situation but he keep on saying the same thing to her if u don't want don't go,she picked it and now she was not even ready to come to me and directly go to her father and cry saying I don't want to go to school from today even tomorrow for ever...
    He said k don't go ..
    Wats the solution for this,how to handle the situation am feeling very stressed with situation and frustrated and crying myslef ..
    Literally every day was like I may die due to the stress wat am going through..
    Is anyone faced the situation and handled alone ..
    Plz share some suggestions..
     
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    Brevity Gold IL'ite

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    Try to work with your husband on providing a united front. You need to discuss with him when your daughter is not present. After all, both of you want what is best for your daughter. Providing a safe space for her where she is heard is very important.

    Keep reasoning with her about the importance of schooling in our life. Tell stories about scientists and engineers and other important figures who had a good education.

    Also do things to assuage her fears about lunch time. Incorporate her feedback for lunch time menu. Talk about good nutrition etc. Be patient.

    Sometimes bad memories associated with a food/place makes even adults hesitant. So it is important to listen to her concerns and reason it out with her.
    Every day, let her know that you are only a phone call away and in the event that she needs you or her dad, you will be there inna jiffy. Also, stress on her victories when she overcomes her fears even if in small way.
     

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