Oh Nooo.!! Dont ever dare to forget a birthday! In this day and age, birthdays are such hyped up events. The invitation some times matches a wedding and the gifts.. Oh Lord! Being invited to a birthday party is no fun anymore.. it has truly lost its charm with all the stress involved. If it is my kids friends's party, then I will have to consult kids before I buy gift because its aprestige issue what gift to give. If its my hubby's colleague's birthday, then some office politics is involved. If it is my friend or someone I know then the trauma begins. Most women I know gossip about the gift giving, so have to beware of the comments. Gift cards I learnt is a no-no. You have to take the time to Shop. And all these add up starting from the card to the gift to the gift wrapper. Growing up we had no such problems. There were no parties given and none attended as well. The only special would be a payasam (sweet dessert) and a trip to the temple. New clothes - No way. Once a year for diwali. If I am not mistaken the first birthday cake I cut was when I turned 40. Very rarely do my dh and I exchange gifts. After being through life's difficulties materials things dont hold any value any more. To us it does not matter if we did not make dinner reservations or forgot to order a cake or get some fancy card! These , however thoughtful they might be do not hold a handle to what really matters. What matters more would be a hug when we feel low, a helping hand when one feels tired, a smile to cheer one's day, a support of a best friend in my spouse, a excited cheering me with my blog and stories.. Truly dare I ask more of life. ? Does anyone disagree.. would love to hear different views on this!