To Enter Or Not To Enter The Guest Room

It’s a bit of a funny question, but I’m really curious how others handle this! DH and I are totally split on it, each of us convinced we’re right.

We have a room set up to serve as a guest room, complete with a bed, nightstand, huge desk, chair, small closet, lamps, comfy lounge chair, and even a monitor for connecting a computer. We use it as an office most of the time, but when we have guests, it can be all theirs; we don’t need anything from there.

Here’s the dilemma: Sometimes, when the guest is out of the house, DH will go to the room to open a window or something like that. I think we should leave the room alone while they’re staying, since their stuff is everywhere, and it’s basically "theirs" during their visit.

I believe we should only enter if they’re in the room or with their knowledge. But DH says guests shouldn’t expect that level of privacy.

Thoughts?

 

It is funny no doubt but sometimes also leads to arguments. Even after I say do not go into the room, he will find some reason like the room is stuffy so window should be opened, or he needs some old mouse or keyboard that is in the nightstand, or the guest threw food wrappers in the room's trash can and ants will come. : )

If the guests are close relatives, it is fine, even I enter happily at any time as needed. If it is a close friend of mine, visiting by herself, it is still fine I feel. But when the guests are a couple or not very close to us, I think there is an unsaid expectation that we will not enter the room when they are away.

As it is, just to keep the guest room door closed, it was a battle. DH firmly believes all room doors and bathrooms should be kept open unless the room is occupied. : )

We are hosting a young adult around 21 yrs old a few times this semester, he leaves wet towel on the bed, sometimes moves dirty suitcase to carpeted area : ) forgets to open window as directed, and throws banana, orange peel into trash can in room ... drives my DH nuts.

 

I asked my female friends who live in various parts of the U.S. and they readily agreed with my take on the matter. : ) Looks like women get the concept more easily.

The guest bathroom - if they don't open the window after the shower, the steam in the bathroom matches the steam coming out of my DH's ears. : ) : )

 

LOL. If guests ever come to know our bones of contentions, they will run away. : ) The minute I put away my phone after finalizing a guest's arrival, the contentions start. The list is really long. The first one will be I say let's go pick them from the airport. DH will say who does that, the guest can take Uber. Then, I go to some pains to say why for some special guests, such as those who are city-hopping on a U.S. tour but live in India, we should pick up from airport. To give him credit, finally we will pick up. Though I will get a long lecture about the traffic and airport congestion.

Then, we argue over breakfast items. : )