Hey all, I am confused about something.. need some advice .. we have been married for few years now, have two daughters (age 3 n 1)... DH is absolutely wonderful person.. ..very sour relationship with MIL and SIL (FIL passed before wedding).. DH doesnt talk to them because of their awful attitude towards me.. in his words- his mom has other kids also, but his wife (who left her family) has only one husband.. so its his job to stand up for his wife.. Last time MIL visited us in Apr'09.. told us will never talk to us in future.. and she executed that.. We tried to call her multiple times, but she wouldnt come on phone. Since then, I became very close to my husband's cousin sisters... and when they asked us about MIL\SIL.. we told them we dont talk to them ... thats it.. no further explanation.. and it seems, this reached MIL on the new year..She called up everyone and clarified her stand .. said really nasty things about DH & I... but since the world is small n round, this news reached us also. Anyway, We got a call from MIL on Jan 3rd wishing happy new year.. I dint pick up the call..but heard her VM.. My confusion is: One side of my brain tells me, dear.. forget everything that happened in past... n move on and talk to her.. second side of my brain tells me.. how can I forget everything.. n especially the fact the she just said so many nasty things about us to her sisters n other relatives two days before calling me.. what is she trying to do.. if she was really interested in wishing us, she would have called us on 1st when she called the entire relative clan ..within US and outside US.. DH neither forces me to call nor stops me from calling them ...He just tells me to do the right thing.. I don't know what to do.. just ignore... or take a step and dial the number.. Any suggestions?