Hello Friends I am here again seeking all fellow IL friends suggestions on situation I am facing woth my in-laws and mainly SIL. I have been married for 8 yrs and have 2 daughters.My Dh has 2 elder sisters. SIL1 behaves like she is responsible for everthing at my IL's place. Ofcousre, everybody especially my IL's blindly follows SIL& her husbands words. In our marriage due to middle man and misunderstandings there were some issues between my parents and IL's. Throughout the marriage process my SIL1's husband standed as an incharge person on my DH's side. So, the misunderstandings also took place betn my parents and my SIL1's husband. so this made the gap between my parents and IL's very deep.I was hoping till date that someday all those gaps will be gone and everybody can come together but day by day its becoming worse and it came to a point that my IL's are not talking to my parents and they also told that my parents can't come to my IL's place. Main reason behind this is my SIL1.bcoz of the misunderstandings betn her husband and my parents. In my recent trip, I had to bare this all. When my fahter came to drop me at my IL's place he got down the street before my IL's place. I felt very sorry for them .My DH says that if my IL's won't talk or visit my parents house then let it be..may be this way there won't be any new problems. please take alook at my older post here http://www.indusladies.com/forums/relationship-with-in-laws/83836-please-advise-what-to-do.html the following r the main issues i faced during my trip to india. 1.After coming from our recent India trip I talked to my IL's till March and I didn't talked with them twice when my husband called..bcoz onetime I was not feling well nd 2nd time I thought that if they won't treat me properly what's the use of tlaking to them everytime...so I stopped.I mean I wanted to talk only often ..not everytime. (I don't know why but DH also not tlaking to my father as he used to..so I thought to do the samething with his parents). am I doing any wrong in here?. how should i behave with my IL's as they r not talking to my parents? 2. My SIL's didn't accepted the sarees as a gift for Rakshabandhan.b'coz everytime we used to send money nd this time I thought of giving them sarees in our trip..but they created hype out of it and made it a big scene as it is the biggest crime .please see the prev. thread http://www.indusladies.com/forums/relationship-with-in-laws/83836-please-advise-what-to-do.html I was forced by my DH to vist my SIL1's inlaws ..but i didnt wanted to.nd my IL's came to know abut that.SIL1 was not talking to me ..she just replies when i talk.So I started to main a low contact with her.but tlaked with her on her annivarsary,and someother time. 3. I went for 3 motnhs vacation to India nd DH joined me after 2 motnhs. During my stay in India, my IL's never asked me to come to home and they also didn't invited me for dasara nd divali festivals. Eventough they didn't invited me I went like 3 times nd stayed for somedays. WHen I asked them they say that "IT's ur house u have to come by ur own, why anybody has to invite u?".But in my cousins and all I saw there Il's inviting them to spend festivals at there place.is what my in-laws told is true? 4. coming to my current pblm, few days back my Dh spoke to her sister(mySIL1) on the phone nd he asked my daughter to speak nd left to restroom. My daughter talked for a while nd she asked can I give phone to mom..then my SIL1 asked for DH and my daughter told her dad is in restroom and she told that I am giving to my mother. nd i thought of okay i will talk to her ..nd i took the phone nd said hello..but she hang up on me. I am very shocked by her behavior...nd I got very angry ..nd i am thinking not to talk to her never..pls advise me to how to handle her? she is very arrogant nd stubbern. pls advise on my issues..i am struggling a lot with all these mental tensions.