tips to improve relationship between husband and wife

well said dear

 

one more thing to be added, criticism can be made (ofcourse in any married life it will be there) :cheers

It should be taken on positive note if the mistake lies on our part.

Things rock my head if my DH turns my critic before some one else, for sure there will be an argument after that :rant

I have said him several times to change this. Of Late he is trying to understand, good for him :coffee

 

Nice tips,
Thanks for sharing..
Few more tips:
1. Try to have food together atleast for dinner. (I'm sure this makes lots of difference in our routine)
2. Be the first one to initiate talk after a fight(ego never works- wind up your fighting mood with that days night itself)
3.take care of your in-laws affectionately (even if u don't like),
4.Don't complain about in-laws unnecessarily, this may create negative impression on you.
5. Last but not the least cook food with full love, this adds special taste ( the way to man's heart is through his stomach)

 

Great post :thumbsup here are few things which have worked fr us.
*Give each other room
*Pursue your passion even if ur spouse is nt interested in it, its ok to have different interests. And whenever we give up our passion we for sure hold a gruge in our heart .
*Dh's CANNOT read our minds or body language so please do communicate what you expect & how he can make you feel better. Specific instructions works!!
* Teach your son how to be sensitive & caring ( think of future dil )

aryashi I think only you can decide how much is too much. I do think both husband & wife needs to work on relationaship but mostly us ladies are the one thinking about & doing something about it. I think a heart to heart talk with your husband is needed. Tell him that how he is making you feel & ask him does he wants to see you happy? Then tell him that if you see him making an effort in your relationship that will please you or atleast give the satisfaction that you matter to him. all the best dear!

 

hmm......I think once you have that heart to heart talk the effect shd last . What ever conclusion you two come to shd be implimented and if the effect is temporary try having another talk. I also realize that its imp to have a cool head while having these chats.

 

Its really an interesting discussion... Let me share my views on this (am a husband) !

1. Key to a happy married life is, considering spouse as a heavenly gift - regardless of the bad habits / problems we see in him / her.
2. Consider our spouse as "someone for me to love" - not someone to love me.
3. Remember there is nobody on earth as "perfect" and my spouse is the 'right match' considering my weaknesses / limitations / shortcomings.
4. It is much easy to change myself than changing someone else (read my spouse). If I can't change myself, how can I expect my spouse to change for me?

To answer the point raised by 'Aryashii', I think, in an 'ideal world', both the parties must be ready to adjust and compromise. However, we need to accept the fact that we are not living in an 'ideal world'. So, whoever realizes the importance of marriage life, may have to walk an extra mile. If I can set aside my ego and walk that extra mile, life is going to be sweet for both of us, our families and society. In fact, aren't we all called to live such a worthy life?

I'm new here and saw this as an interesting topic to share my views. Thanks for reading !