Ticketsand Vacation Sponsoring For Inlaws

Dear Op,

In that scenario, please don't sponsor for any one, but for your in laws air fare, you can transfer the money in their bank account.

If your SIL or relatives excluding parents (since they are ageing), if they don't have any good relation with you then no need for you to maintain it, keep it simple you give respect and love and you will get the same back else forget it.

Best wishes....

 

You should not pay for SIL and her family. Ideally, she should offer to pay her family's share.So that way, you don't have to ask directly.
But if she is of the exploitative kind(which many SILs are), she will not offer to pay.
Plus, my guess is your husband would be only too glad to pay for her family(as many brothers are).
You can only deal with this, if your in-laws and husband are on your side.I guess as they are coming together, one person would do the booking, so ask her to do everyone's booking , and then transfer money to your inlaws, so they can give her their share,

 

When money comes into relationships, even the best of them can go seriously downhill . If you book their trip once , they and others will have the same expectations from you for future trips so better nip it in the bud. I don’t see a reason why you should sponsor for the entire battalion who are coming with your ILs. Sil is young and healthy , must be working or has a husband who is working , so they should take care of their expenditures and that includes fancy vacations . If they cannot afford it , they shouldn’t go for it. They will be getting free stay , free transportation and food at your place so that’s enough generosity from your side .
If your ILs are old and retired, it’s ok to sponsor their trip once in a while like you would for you own parents .

 

Now, if ILs didn’t pay for wedding or any gifts, that tells me they are not well off or can’t afford big expenses, is that so? Then you definitely have to sponsor their trip. As I said pay for Sil only if relation is good. As for Kurti etc, I would not feel bad, why expect? Dh buys for you , isn’t it?

And , I think here Sil won’t mind you sponsoring for parents since they can’t afford, what choice would they have?

 

Op...discuss with husband how sponsoring sil's tickets will mean you people will have to buy tickets for all future visits by relative.
Ask him to convey to inlaws. Send the money for their tickets. Let sil buy her own tickets if she wants to travel.

All this can happen only if your husband also feels the same way.

 

I agree with naari but at the same time as u said u have 2 sil then have to think if u do for one u have to do for both the same ... u talk to ur hubby n see how much u want to spend if with tickets then outing might not be more since the expenditure if the relatives cover some then u guys can travel n see more ,shopping as well ...

 

If u pay for 1 next year u need to pay for another this chain will keep on going and in the last it will end in fight and it will spoil ur relationship.better transfer ur in laws flight changes to there bank account ..that is best,u don’t involve let ur husband tell this to his sister.tell her politely that while she is booking the ticket ask her to book for in laws too and tell alreAdy he transfer he money and don’t want to trouble ur sil husband...

 

I don't know why you would be expected to cover SIL and child's ticket. It sounds like you invited your inlaws, which is understandable, and then your SIL (and kid) wants to tag along. Whether the SIL is married or single, she is still responsible for her own ticket (and her dependents). Parents and in-laws are in a separate category, because they are usually in the retired phase in life, and cannot afford an international trip.

The only time I have seen a US based person cover the flight tickets of extended family, is when they are inviting close family to their child's wedding in the US.