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Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by jayasala42, Jan 5, 2014.

  1. jayasala42

    jayasala42 IL Hall of Fame

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    On most of the occasions human beings are worried about negative things that may never happen at all leaving the focus.
    It is also true that our planning can avoid certain mishaps.
    Stories in books may give a broad guide line for the right mind set and cannot solve real life problems.
    A real life incident happened in Tiruchirapalli in 1960.I was studying in the college.
    Just a week ahead of the daughter's marriage this incident happened.The girl's father was bringing up the parentless sons of his deceased brother.So it was decided to celebrate the upanayanam of the boys too along with his daughter's marriage.
    Just four days before the marriage , one of the boys was buried in the deep sand of kollidam river in a bottomless pit( puthai manal) as he landed in an unsafe spot.
    As ill luck would have it, the man's brother-in-law,(sister's husband) who was helping electricians for pandal decoration had a massive electric shock and passed away.Too grave deaths in the house, just overlooking marriage.
    There was no miracle as that happens in stories.No God sent messenger.The brother-in -law and the boy had to be cremated.The bridegroom and his relatives were already on their way in the train from Delhi..In villages each one started airing his own opinion.No time to lament or brood over.
    The marriage had already been cancelled twice due to various reasons.
    The poor boy was weeping on oneside for his brother. The man's sister was lamenting for her husband's death. Rumours were already on that the girl as well as the bridegroom were unlucky and they have brought Yama even before Mangala Sutra was tied.

    There was gloom when the marriage party arrived. Sambandhis felt that it was not practical to stop the wedding after making so many arrangements and they had no objection in conducting the marriage.The poor man had to focus on his daughter's marriage much against his wish as he had to ultimately think about his daughter's future rather than mourn the inevitable death.
    My father and mother who were nearing 75 at that time gave lot of moral support and conducted Kannikadanam for that girl, as the father could not do so.
    The girl, now a grandma of 75, lives happily in Delhi.
    Though such simultaneous calamities are rarities, they teach us a lot.
    There were initaial uproars and gossips.
    As the Nadhaswaram sound was heard, all kept quiet.The same relatives and villagers who spoke ill of the father and avoided the function appreciated the man for his patient handling and unemotional approach.
    Certain decisions have to be taken instantaneously inspite of being branded selfish and unsympathetic.
    This too shall pass
    Jayasala42
     
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  2. attitudegirl

    attitudegirl Platinum IL'ite

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    how true... must have been a difficult decision to make in those days..
     
  3. kanaka Raghavan

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    true,such people are there to overlook such things,life has to go on,tide and time waits for none.
     
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    kkrish IL Hall of Fame

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    Yes, very true.
    Sometimes we find ourselves in very difficult situations and worry a lot.
    However, everything will resolve and life goes on.
     
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    Dear Jayasala,

    It must have been a hard decision for the father to take care of daughter's life and at the same time mourn for brother in law and brother's son. He made a right decision and there is no purpose in stopping the wedding. In fact, the departed souls might have felt bad, had the marriage was stopped. Many times, people say that when there is death in the family, an auspicious function should be celebrated. That is the significance of having a Grakiyam on the 13th day after death. Life coming to an end in an accident is very tragic and painful but stopping the wedding of daughter is even more painful.

    Viswa
     

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