This never happened earlier.....So why now.....am I over-reacting??

From now on, you go first and tell him that there will be a pop quiz at the end and if he fails to score 90% or higher, his TV privileges are suspended for the night LOL

 

thats a cool idea malavika!!

sridivya, you know your DH best.. if you think he can understand subtle messages, you shud definitely try the above suggested.. atleast that shud get him to ask you why you are going to such lengths..
get this sorted and out of your system.. you should not have to lose your peace on this .. good luck.-.

looks like we cross posted

 

Ur hubby is funny and I kinda agree with him. What's the big deal, he wants to wind up after a big day, why another lecture?

 

Divya

Generally speaking men tend to have short attention spans, while women tend to ramble on and on analyzing every little event of the day. In your case tho' it appears you dh was a pretty good listener, and indeed it is funny that your dh shud suddenly act this way.

You could try two approaches:

1. Get to the bottom of the problem, if there really is one (I guess judging by his light hearted comments to your reaction there might not even be anything wrong). It could just be some work related thing niggling him - a nit picking boss, a deadline round the corner, or perhaps a loan/morgage payment he needs to plan for.

Anyways try talking to him, or observe his moods. You could figure out what's bothering him, esp if he is showing other behavioral changes apart from this distracted mode.

2. Approach 2 - Pretend all is well (which it may well be!). Go on with your daily chores, tend to the kids' homework or after school classes, hit the gym and burn some energy, or get bold and initiate some bedroom action if you wish! In short, stop letting a little deviant behavior rule your days (afterall his quirkiness may be shortlived). Share your day with your dh like you do normally, but make it short to keep your sanity!

Do post back with updates. Take care!

 

Hi,
Not to upset you but do you ever talk to him with double meanings. You know how we some times say things and our DH thinks that they are not as good as our neighbour's DH.They feel that we are taunting them.
DHs do not get mad immediately but they sometimes do drift away slowly, so you have to be careful not to hurt them.
Think about it, see if I make sense to you.

 

Not to offend you or anything.. I take the liberty to say becoz I had been in ur shoes.
May be the topics you talk are not interesting anymore..

My DH is my data bank, meaning I have to pour my every minute to him the moment his ears are open (physically. )
Then one fine day I noticed he was simply saying mm.. hmm..mm.. in regular intervals :rotfl

But I was not offended or anything rather observed carefully and found out that I was boring. What interests me may not interest him, right?! How can I blame this guy? After all he is trying his best with that mm.. hmm..mm.. atleast.

So later on, I start a topic to see his interest level and stop in between to see if he cares to reinstate the conversation (if I may call it so!) and if he seems to be relieved that I dropped the topic, I keep him relieved. :rotfl

After some period, I dont know how.. but he started to ask me, what happened, Today? After all I think he was assured that I won't bore him!

Take it easy!

See if your talks are monotonous or.. do they fal into some category that least interests him..