Swife, i expect absolutely NOTHING. Not even trying to please him or impress him, He does not need anything, he can live with frozen patties or readymade salad. Pampering myself and dressing up well and all I always do and continue to be so.. HIS Help while I fall sick absolutely no, max he can say is if you are not cooking lunch dont worry then i can eat out, u fix your meal. (he would not bother abt me) . RadiantCat - What if I leave, I have to handle A to Z on my own, i cant be in US if i declare this marriage over - then go back to India empty hands and get back to parents house to give me accommodation and start life from scratch... nope i dont want to do that. Hi Vaidehi, thank you for your reply, I just updated my old thread with the latest thing happening in my life.. read my latest post of what he is up to.