I have a 2 year old who pretty much is an understanding kid. I have a full time work from home job and my toddler goes to day care only half a day (bcas H thinks, she sleeps 2nd half there, so she can do it at home) its a hectic schedule for me, once she is back in the afternoon, H fetches her and comes home i have to keep lunch ready for him too and then i have to feed her, she plays for a while and then put her to sleep... so my about 2 hours of the work time is gone. I would be under pressure when I get calls when she is around. After work i make dinner, feed her, i eat, clean, dishes, and put her to sleep. She takes time to sleep so its like 10 or so and i would be all exhausted. She is like another part of my body who would always keep a tab on me, and i have to be around her, this is even when i am in restroom. This is bcas, H doesnt much attach to her. He loves her is what he says but its all periodic. When she is not sleeping for long in night, i get really tired and leave her in room and come out seldom though, she cries, after long H goes and says mom wdnt come, sleep, she continuous to cry for me he says - you will die if you cry like this. He uses this kind of words than trying to pacify her or say your mom will kill you dont go to her. This irritates me so so much, sometimes i just dont say anything it just raises my anger, mostly i go and lift her if he is saying so. It hurts so badly for saying such words to own kid. How could he do that. He is person who can sit with his phone or laptop no matter how much ever she cries or she is hurt or anything. He would be deaf. Every work at home has to be done by me, even shopping grocery carrying all that upstairs to laundry, throwing thrash, fixing anything thats not working at home, cleaning, vacuum, all he does is sit with laptop evenings and on all week ends. Only thing he does is to bathe her. I have developed enormous amount of patience and just put myself into ignore mode. We hardly fight, when there is argument, we speak back as if nothing happened. All these after reading thru lot other posts here. But these words he says to kid is so hurtful... why cant he have some sense ???