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  1. indubalram

    indubalram Platinum IL'ite

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    Husband turn the story around to make it seem like you are at fault, deflecting attention and blame away from him m to make you feel guilty. This type of emotional manipulation is called gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where a person makes you doubt yourself or question your account of an incident. This is what I’m going through. And I’m fighting to be strong and I blame him back and ask him to take responsibility. How do get out of this situation
     
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  2. Janakinarne

    Janakinarne Silver IL'ite

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    Just ignore his talks and try ti be calm whn he was speaking and be like you heard anything,and enjoy your self by singing a song or watching some thing outside or in your mob, don't listen his words,by listening you feel more frustrated and you wil be fire on him which wil give a chance to him to shoot u back,
    When he started to speak just ce out of the place and if you can't als act like you are not caring wat he was talking,
    You are not a newly married women ,now you should teach your daughter how to over come small issues in her life ,si be strong and stay away from the emotions from your husband, when he not care abut you then you no need to consider his words nor his actions,once you starts to ignore him he wil surely wil come down and you may fins a solution to your questions,
    Don't shoot back ,if you decide to shoot back be strong and fight til the end,don't take anything emotionally
     
  3. indubalram

    indubalram Platinum IL'ite

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    But he doesn’t let me ignore him. The moment he noticed I’m ignoring him he keeps coming to me to ask for my opinion and then when I give him a suggestion he takes that as descion to blame later on
     
  4. chanchitra

    chanchitra Gold IL'ite

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    IGNORE.
    Can you find some counseling for yourself. It will help you.
    Psychologist, CBT(cognitive behavior therapy
     
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    indubalram Platinum IL'ite

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    I don’t know anyone here in USA
     
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    Do you have medical insurance?
    If so call them and get in network CBT
    Even psychiatrist will do.
     
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    Ok
     
  8. Janakinarne

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    Then listen him and tell him you too don't hav any idea about it and tell him to do what he thinks and what he wants to do...repeat the same answer but with different words every time he asks and if you can't escape from him just tel him wat u think and ask eat his idea and tell him that he is correct and let him do in his way..
     
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    And als tell him it's just its your opinion and he no need to go with that and strictly say that you are not responsible with the conveniences and his decision is final and should takecare pf wat ever outcome wil come otherwise tell him you are not ready to give any suggestion to him..and not ready to accept any more blames
     
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    I did that recently. Then he says I have not contributed anything for the family!
     

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